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How to leave it all behind you at the end of the day

How to leave it all behind you at the end of the dayThe story has it that Mark Twain loved to go fishing, but he hated to catch fish. The problem was he went fishing to relax, and catching fish ruined his relaxation, since he had to take the fish off the hook and do something with it. When he wanted to relax by doing nothing, people thought he was lazy, but if he went fishing he could relax all he wanted. People would see him sitting by the river bank and they would say, “Look, he’s fishing, don’t bother him.” So Mark Twain had the perfect solution: he would take a fishing pole, line, and a bobber, but he wouldn’t put a hook on the end. He would cast the bobber in the water and lay back on the bank. That way he could relax all he wanted and he would be bothered neither by man nor fish. Mark Twain is like a lot of Christians I know. They have their pole in the water, but there is no hook on the end. They are not fishing; they are relaxing.

Jesus called men who were great fishermen to follow Him. He said, “Come ye after me, and I will make you to become fishers of men.” (Mark 1:17). From this invitation, we uncover a simple truth that I will expand on.

Jesus calls people to Himself so they can influence others.

This is a command. Jesus is not asking for volunteers. He has made a command. This is not a question. It is in the imperative tense. And notice that this is not a command to a work but to a Person. He calls them to a continuous walk with Him rather than to a single act toward Him.

This is a sacrifice. To follow Jesus means you leave everything else. They left everything they’ve known – all the security, family, and business- to follow Jesus. It is interesting to note when they obeyed, one pair left their occupation, the others left their father. This is radical discipleship. A person must leave all behind to follow Jesus. A radical message with a radical call resulted in radical obedience. This seems negative, but it actually is a positive teaching the power of Jesus’ Word overcomes the power of even family ties and financial stability. God may not ask us to leave our jobs or families, but we must be willing to abandon everything to follow Him.

This is a trust. They left what they were doing and embraced what God was doing wholeheartedly. This is ‘Repent & Believe’ in action. When they heard what Jesus wanted them to do they immediately obeyed and acted with faith. They put their futures and the livelihood of their families in His hands. To follow Jesus shows you trust Him with your future. Jesus said He would make them ‘fishers of men.’ He promised a lifelong learning and growth process. Jesus chooses teachable people. It is no accident that He chose unsophisticated, unlearned fishermen. What an unlikely start for world conquest.

This is a choice. Men of Fish? We were created with a desire to influence others. We want to make a mark. We sometimes worry about the ambition that burns within us. We want to be somebody and do things, but it is not always easy to sort out how much of t his is selfish and how much is Christian. Jesus addresses each of us and our ambition: ‘Do you want to make something of your life, to have a life that is useful? Follow me!’

How to leave it all behind you at the end of the dayIn light of this, think about the following questions: What does Christ expect me to leave behind to follow Him? What sacrifice of personal achievement, wealth, or position does Christ ask me to make? What prevents me from following Jesus immediately and wholeheartedly? What must I do to eliminate these hindrances in my life?

This episode in the life of Jesus is a shortened version of what happened. It is actually the conclusion of a day-long experience. Luke 5:1-11 tells the miracle leading up to this moment. I encourage you to read it HERE. The following story comes from that passage.

How to leave it all behind you at the end of the day

Imagine this: You’re in the car, out on the open road, and suddenly you wonder what would happen if you just kept going. You feel a powerful urge to leave it all behind, because, well, life is complicated. And a part of you just wants to run away from everything.

Have you ever yearned to just run away from everything?

I have. It happened a few days ago, coming home from a weekend away. The sun was streaming through the redwood trees, dappling the pavement, and the gentle curve of the road carried me back to childhood.

Just then I remembered driving on a road much like this, my grandfather at the wheel. Feeling safe and secure in his presence.

And in that moment of memory, I just wanted to keep going.

Lately I’ve been hearing lots of stories about people wanting to run away from everything, escape, walk out.

Of course, you don’t have to be driving to feel the urge to flee. It can rise up anytime, particularly when you’re feeling burned out, overwhelmed, stressed out.

In fact, common wisdom would tell you that if you’re feeling the need to leave it all behind, it’s time to address the underlying problems, because running away probably won’t solve anything. And while I do generally agree with that, what if there’s more to it?

What if the desire to leave it all behind is also about seeking safety?

Just yesterday I was thinking about this.

When you take whatever personal issues you’re dealing with in your life, add in the ongoing political and social upheaval we’re experiencing, and finally top it all off with whatever crises are happening in your local region (like the wildfires here in California), well then you’ve got the perfect recipe for wanting to escape and leave it all behind.

And suddenly the yearning to just run away from everything makes so much sense.

Something important happens when we question what it means to want to run away from it all.

Maybe it’s not just about escape or denial.

Maybe it’s not just about an overload of personal problems and challenging life circumstances.

Perhaps it’s also about your fundamental human need to feel protected, safe, whole and anchored.

The good news is there are many ways to give that to yourself without running away from everything. Those I’m featuring below are helping me most right now.

Seven ways to come back to yourself: safe, whole and nurtured

1. Walk

Or maybe I should say meander, stroll, wander. Because this isn’t about walking fast. In fact, it’s the opposite: finding a place in nature where you can do some restorative walking. (Yes, that’s actually a thing.)

Here in Santa Rosa I’m lucky to be close to some great walking areas. And the day after I had that urge to keep driving and just run away from everything, I took myself to Bodega Head.

Just 30 minutes spent wandering along the trails, looking down at the vast expanse of the Pacific Ocean, brought me back to center.

2. Read less

Did you know that we average three to four hours a day on our phones, and a total of 11 hours a day in front of screens? We’re taking in so much information that we lose track of our own wisdom.

But when you deliberately limit your time on all those screens, you make space for your wisdom to reemerge.

3. Read more

There’s something magical about losing yourself in a story, a real book, the product of an author’s imagination. Story softens you up, gives you air to breathe below the surface.

Stories comfort and guide you back to your own inspiration and wisdom.

4. Look

Images have the power to soothe and bring you back to yourself too.

It is possible to create safety for yourself simply by tearing out and cutting out magazine images that reflect what you dream of running away to (or running toward).

If you don’t have any actual magazines you can find images online and print them out. Or begin collecting images that you know are soothing in some way.

Having something tangible to hold and look at enhances the experience.

5. Write

Call up a memory of a time when you felt safe, whole and protected. Then write about it, capturing as many of the sensory details as you can

6. Sleep

This month’s National Geographic is all about sleep:

A full night’s sleep now feels as rare and old fashioned as a handwritten letter.

The author makes the case that we have, sadly, developed an adversarial relationship with sleep. No wonder we want to run away. But sleep is your friend, not your enemy.

7. Connect

Did you know that almost half of the brain’s cerebral cortex is devoted to visual input? That’s the part of the brain where social cues are processed.

So basically that means if we’re not connecting in real space and time, our brains are probably starving for face time. Human connection (with those who care about you) can help you feel safe, whole and nurtured like nothing else.

Of course, none of these actions are necessarily easy when you’re in the throes of wanting to run away.

Still, I believe it’s tremendously important to name them as possibilities.

Naming things that are within your reach, even if it’s only in a small way, can be the beginning of hope and a return to your wise self.

So please remember this too: You are wise and you already know so much about how to live your life.

How to leave it all behind you at the end of the day

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” – Ann Landers

On December 21st, while wrapping up our final team meeting for the year, I shared with a colleague some items I had to accomplish over the holidays. The list included two articles that had to be created, a couple video messages that had to be recorded, a substantial number of thank you notes that had to be written, and perhaps most exciting and daunting of all, the very first chapter of my next book that had to be produced. (More info about this coming your way over the next few months, my friends. Super fired up on this one…stay tuned. )

Well, after sharing the list of items with Abby, she thoughtfully looked at me and responded by reminding me why we do the work we do in the first place, the gift of being fully present to those we love and the power of returning from a break actually rejuvenated to do the work.

She then stood up and offered a final piece of advice: “Leave it all behind.”

How to Ensure Our Greatest Joy

For two weeks, instead of writing articles for publication, I went on walks with my wife, shot baskets with my boys and baked pies with my daughter.

Instead of recording videos of me speaking, I recorded videos of my family gatherings, friends at parties and kids opening presents.

Instead of writing hundreds of thank you notes to clients, I wrote a few sincere love letters to dear friends.

And instead of disappearing into coffee shops and quiet nooks to write a chapter recalling memories from the past, we surprised our kids with a ski trip to create new memories to last a lifetime.

My friends, don’t read the above as permission to procrastinate for our entire lives. Don’t ignore important work projects of the day. Don’t burn that to-do list of tasks to accomplish. Don’t stop striving to succeed mightily. Hard work, professional growth and personal progress are important aspects of a meaningful life.

But, in the end, what’s the point of accomplishing anything if it’s at the expense of the family, the people, the things and the health that fill us with the greatest joy? [Tweet this.] | [Share on Facebook.]

Focusing on What and Who Matters Most in 2019

As you sweep up the holiday parties, put away the Christmas decorations and return to the worthy work of your life, remember to occasionally take pause. Although some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength, the truth is that there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go. And then to have the courage to do it.

In the mundane periods of each day, the stress of the task, or the disappointments of the season, it’s critically important to return to what matters most, give thanks for all we already have, control the things we can and then leave the rest behind.

Because, in the end, that’s where you’ll leave it anyway.

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Was there ever a time, that you could define
Tell me was there ever a time that you could refine
What was boiling deep inside you
What was building up inside you

So what’ll you do when none of it’s true
Ya gonna go and break the mirror you thought was you
While it’s coming down around you
It’s all falling down around you

If I took away your one excuse
Helped you down and cut the noose
Would you leave it all behind you
Could you leave this all behind you

If you tore away the tourniquet
And you put yourself in front of it
Could you leave this all behind you
Would you leave this all behind you

Tell me was there ever a way, ever a day
You could have simply walked away or talked your way
Out of what was changing deep inside you
Rearranging what’s inside you

While you’re lookin’ around for someone to blame
I hear that you been running around dropping my name
While the ship you’re on is sinking
What the fuck have you been thinking

If I took away your one excuse
Helped you down and cut the noose
Would you leave it all behind you
Could you leave this all behind you

If you tore away the tourniquet
And you put yourself in front of it
Could you leave this all behind you
Would you leave this all behind you

If I took away your one excuse
Helped you down and cut the noose
Would you leave it all behind you
Could you leave this all behind you

If you tore away the tourniquet
And you put yourself in front of it
Could you leave this all behind you
Would you leave this all behind you

If I took away your one excuse
Helped you down and cut the noose
Would you leave it all behind you
Could you leave this all behind you

If you tore away the tourniquet
And you put yourself in front of it
Could you leave this all behind you
Would you leave this all behind you

Lyrics submitted by Mellow_Harsher

Leave It All Behind Lyrics as written by Jason Hook Ivan Moody

Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.

6 tips to help you leave work at work and to get more done during the workday

At the end of a long workday, everyone just wants to go home and relax. The last thing people want to do is keep working, but more oft than not, too many people feel like they have no other choice. They stay late at work or take mountains of paperwork home with them, only to feel like they’re even further behind at the end of the night. This doesn’t have to be the case, though. Here are a few simple tips and tricks to help you keep work at work.

Use technology.

If you ever expect to minimize all that after-work-working, then you’ll actually need to get your work done during work. To do that, you’ll need help, and the best way to get this help is through technology. From apps and gadgets to quality hardware and dependable IT support, technology is a surefire way to get more done, in less time. And what’s even better is that this help will never call in sick, will never show up to work late, and will never tell you no.

Minimize distractions.

While technology is a great way to supercharge your day-to-day, it’s also a great way to kill your focus, motivation, and anything and everything that’s reminiscent of productivity. Because of this, you need to get things under control, and to do this, think about incorporating distraction-blocking apps into your workday – like Freedom, StayFocusd, or Focus. These apps will help you concentrate on your workload, so you can get more done during the day and leave work on time.

Say no.

At the end of the day, you can only handle so much, and only you know how much that is. When coworkers or even managers approach you and ask you to do more – and you know you can’t finish it all in the timeframe requested – then let them know this. And if you feel comfortable with it, tell these people no. In most cases, people will be more than willing to accept your answer or, at the very least, more than willing to work with you.

Pick up hobbies.

If you’re really motivated to get off work in time, then start scheduling activities for yourself. As an example, you could sign up for a gym session that starts at 5:30 every evening and ask a friend to go to it with you. Do this and two things will happen. You’ll have to leave work on time if you want to make it to the session on time, and you’ll feel more obligated to go because you have a friend counting on you to show up.

Be realistic with your to-dos.

Sometimes it’s hard to leave work at work because you give yourself too much to do. When you create your daily or weekly to-do lists, you cram way too much into it, and as a result, you’re unrealistic with yourself. At this point, you’re basically forcing yourself to stay at work late or to take work home with you. If you struggle to create realistic to-do lists, then try to allot a timeframe to each task – this way you can actually determine how many tasks you can get done in one 8-hour workday.

Leave yourself gaps.

While we’re on the subject of to-do lists, you’re going to want to leave yourself some gaps in that schedule of yours. Things will come up and people will ask for random favors throughout the day. If you don’t give yourself time to take care of these things, then your real to-dos will begin to overflow into your home life. The ideal way to give yourself more time during the day is to give yourself more time to complete each to-do on your list. For example, give yourself 45 minutes to a complete a task that can typically be completed in 30 minutes. This way, you don’t actually have gaps of empty time in your schedule… gaps that coworkers can and will easily take advantage of.

Five Finger Death Punch Lyrics

“Leave It All Behind”

Was there ever a time – that you could define
Tell me was there ever a time that you could refine
What was boiling deep inside you
What was building up inside you

So what’ll you do when none of it’s true
Ya gonna go and break the mirror you thought was you
While it’s coming down around you
It’s all falling down around you

If I took away your one excuse
Helped you down and cut the noose
Would you leave it all behind you
Could you leave this all behind you

If you tore away the tourniquet
And you put yourself in front of it
Could you leave this all behind you
Would you leave this all behind you

Tell me was there ever a way – ever a day
You could have simply walked away or talked your way
Out of what was changing deep inside you
Rearranging what’s inside you

While you’re lookin’ around for someone to blame
I hear that you been running around dropping my name
While the ship you’re on is sinking
What the fuck have you been thinking

If I took away your one excuse
Helped you down and cut the noose
Would you leave it all behind you
Could you leave this all behind you

If you tore away the tourniquet
And you put yourself in front of it
Could you leave this all behind you
Would you leave this all behind you

If I took away your one excuse
Helped you down and cut the noose
Would you leave it all behind you
Could you leave this all behind you

If you tore away the tourniquet
And you put yourself in front of it
Could you leave this all behind you
Would you leave this all behind you

If I took away your one excuse
Helped you down and cut the noose
Would you leave it all behind you
Could you leave this all behind you

If you tore away the tourniquet
And you put yourself in front of it
Could you leave this all behind you
Would you leave this all behind you

If you had known me a year ago, you wouldn’t recognize me now. A year ago I was attending a top-ranked business school, in a serious relationship with someone who loved me, had a stable part-time job and was living in my sorority house.

Today, I am living in Ireland, studying journalism, working odd jobs here and there and. don’t even ask me about my romantic life.

A year ago, I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was missing. Though there wasn’t really anything wrong with my life, I just knew I wasn’t on the right track.

So, in January, I hopped on a plane to Ireland with the intention of being an au pair for six months. Now, here I am, indefinitely living in Ireland and attending school. I left behind my family, business school, my boyfriend, my best friend, my home and basically everything that has made me who I am.

Every time I tell someone my story, I am met with reactions ranging of praise and jealousy to doubt and judgment over my motives. It’s a complicated life to choose, and a lot of people can’t really wrap their heads around the concept of doing something so extreme.

So, here is the truth for anyone who’s wanted to jump face-first into a new life without the safety net of familiarity to fall back on:

Uncertainty Becomes Constant

If you need to be certain about the direction in which your life is going, then this is not the lifestyle for you. Not a day goes by where I am not met with moments of overwhelming doubt. Did I make a mistake? Am I doing this for the right reasons? Should I make pasta again for dinner?

The decisions you make become yours and yours alone. You learn to embrace the freedom of not knowing because at the end of the day, you’re the one who chose this; no one else did.

It’s a life that forces you to trust yourself because there is no one else around on whom to fall back. If I had never left home, I know exactly where I would be right now and where my life would be going. Now, I couldn’t even tell you where I’ll be tomorrow.

It is like throwing your life into free-fall mode; maybe you don’t know exactly where you’ll land, but you know you’ll be just fine once you get there.

Home Means Something Different

When you leave behind the home you grew up in to live andВ grow roots somewhere else, “home”В will never be the same once you go back. It’s part of the reason I couldn’t go back; I knew what I always thought of as “home” wouldn’t be there for me anymore.

Home becomes more of a feeling than a place. Home is having a cup of tea by the fire with your closest friends after a long week. Home is a letter from your grandmother, orВ an unexpected text from your best friend telling you he or sheВ misses you.

Home is dancing around your room in the middle of the night just because you can. It’s little moments with yourself and the people you care about.

Once you realize you don’t need a place called “home” to give you comfort, you will be able to find a home just about anywhere in the world.

You Realize TheВ Importance Of Family

I absolutely love my family; however, I never really understood how much until I left them. Family is the craziest kind of love because I know that no matter where I am or what I do, they will always be there for me when I need them.

Living 3,000 miles away, it became so easy to drift apart from friends and classmates, but it is impossible to drift apart from your family. When I came to Ireland, I wanted to find myself, but I never really knew how much of myself is my family.

I find my brother every time I break it down on the dance floor in a club; I think of how my sister would laugh anytime something horrifyingly embarrassing happens. A little bit of my dad is in any corny joke I try to pull off, and, of course, my mother is in my head anytime my temper starts to boil.

You never realize how much your family has molded you into the person you are until you’re not around them. It’s many little things, but they make you realize what a lucky person you are to have that kind of unconditional support from so far away.

You Learn To Live Your Life For You

Stripping yourself free of everything you’ve ever known allows you to become the rawest version of yourself. There is no longer anyone around to tell you what he or sheВ thinks you should do, and you no longer worry about what other people will think of you and how you’re living.

You become the only person who dictates your life, and you can do whatever it is that makes you happy. You’re not living your life to please anyone else but yourself.

It is the most independent, fearless and selfish thing you can do, and at this stage, it’s okay to be selfish to an extent if it means you are happy. It’s true that you only get one shot at living, so you better live for yourself without the influences of other people getting in the way of who you are.

A year ago, I basically had all my ducks in a row, but something was still missing. So I said, “Screw the ducks!” and created chaos. And a chaotic life it is. It is messy, lonely, adventurous, funny, happy, emotional and scary, but it’s all mine.

You Will Love Bigger

In becoming the rawest version of yourself, you open up this whole world of deep emotions you didn’t know were possible. And trust me, I was a fairly emotional person to begin with.

I used to think there were two types of love in the world: the love reserved for family and your closest friends, and romantic love.В Now, after forcing myself to open up to new things and people and places, I find love everywhere.

There are millions of different types of love. No two things in this world were meant to be loved the same. There’s love in meeting kind strangers in a new city, in tasting a new flavor and in watching the sunrise.

Love no longer becomes a selective process, but a natural occurrence in seeing the beauty in everywhere you go and every person you meet. Everything you love in your life should be loved uniquely and individually, so let go of the instincts that keep youВ from being happy, and make the choice to love, instead.

Even when you have those moments of doubt and fear, just embrace them; find love in them. Those are the moments you realize how capable you are and how much stronger you are as a person for taking the risks you needed to take.

How to leave it all behind you at the end of the day

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How to leave it all behind you at the end of the day

I’ve had a lot of sleepless nights. Nights when I was so worried about something that had happened in the past that I let it dictate my future. We’ve all been there at some point. You’re not alone.

I’m talking about those times when we just can’t shake the past. Whether it’s something small, like making a terrible first impression, or saying something you wish you hadn’t, to something big, like having to shutdown your business. Harping on negative experiences is painful and, when we hold on to that pain, we can’t move on to something more positive.

That’s why it’s important that you let it go and leave the past behind with these eight tactics.

1. Learn from the past but don’t dwell there.

Yes. Those negative experiences you had can actually be used for learning and future experiences — no matter how painful they are. Take some time to reflect on the experience and look at ways at it can actually benefit you down the road.

You can learn from your experiences by reflecting on these few simple questions:

  • What really happened? Answer only by confronting the facts.
  • What emotions do I feel? I personally like to write them down.
  • How can I use this to empower myself and my feelings?

After answering these questions, it’s time to move on. While reflecting on the past for a little bit of time is acceptable, dwelling on it will only keep those negative thoughts and feelings around.

2. Express yourself.

Don’t hesitate to get the pain you’re feeling off your chest. Whether it’s talking to the individual who has harmed you (or who you harmed), venting to a friend or writing it down, expressing your feelings can assist you in sorting out what, if anything, needs to be done to move on.

More importantly, it’s good for your health. Dr. Edmund Bourne, author of The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, warns that holding onto your feelings leads to anxiety, depression, headache and high blood pressure.

Grief expert Gloria Horsley from OpentoHope says “When it’s time to express your feelings, make sure to use “I” messages. Describe the degree of your emotions, and share them with someone who will listen and not pass judgment. This will help you express the grief you’re going through.”

3. Stop pointing fingers.

Playing the role of the victim is easy and sometimes feels pretty good, especially compared with accepting the truth. The problem is, blaming others prevents you from going forward. Most often, pointing fingers is just complaining.

Life coach Ruchika Batra also adds on Pick the Brain that blaming others gives power to someone else and makes us small. Batra also says, “When we blame, we automatically enter the negative zone. We loathe someone else or some external factor because we were not able to mold life into our own favor.”

4. Focus on the present.

One of the most effective ways to let go of the past is to embrace the present. Instead of reliving the past and getting consumed with negativity, keep yourself active and enjoy the current moment. Learn a new skill. Meditate. Exercise. Have dinner with a friend. Make a new friend. Whatever it is, just live in the moment – even if it’s just sitting at your desk and watching the clouds roll by. I personally “cope” by building my business and the future of eCash. It motivates me and helps give me something to devote my life towards.

Living in the moment, also called mindfulness, “involves being with your thoughts as they are, neither grasping at them nor pushing them away.” Psychology Today states that “mindful people are happier, more exuberant, more empathetic, and more secure.”

To achieve a more mindful state, be aware of what you are thinking and feeling, reduce self-consciousness, seek out new experiences and accept your negative feelings and situations as merely being a part of life.

5. Disconnect for a while.

Allow yourself to take some time away so that you can clear your head. You don’t have to go backpacking through Europe. Just remove yourself from the situation by distancing yourself from the people, places and things that remind you of the past. Practicing ways to disconnect for a while will give you the chance to experience something positive — even if that’s just camping at a nearby campground without any access to social media.

When you return, you’ll have a perspective on the past.

6. Think about the people around you.

Take inventory of the people around you. Who is negative and always bringing you down? Who are the people associated with the past that you’re trying to move away from? You may need to move away from these individuals to find more positive people who will empower you.

There are more than enough ways to meet new people, such as attending local meetups and conferences. Don’t be shy. Get yourself out there and find a new group of friends and acquaintances who can help you move forward.

7. Forgive those who wronged you — including yourself.

If you’ve been hurt by someone, the last thing that you may want to do is forgive them. But, as Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “Forgiving others is essential for spiritual growth.” Dr. Dyer has 15 steps to help you forgive someone, like embracing the past while moving on, making a new agreement with yourself, not going to sleep angry and being kind and generous.

While you’re at it, forgive yourself. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. Instead of kicking yourself for your past mistakes, cut yourself some slack and focus on the lessons that you’ve learned.

Once you’re not carrying that anger and resentment, you’ll be able to move on.

8. Make new memories.

Finally, start making new, positive memories to replace those negative memories from the past. Spend your time with the people who make you happy, the things that bring you joy and in the places that bring you peace. Making new memories is better being stuck in the past.

In fact, it’s been discovered by scientists that having too many old memories makes it more difficult to make new memories. So, out with the old and in with the new.

Lyrics Details: One Day You Will Leave This World Behind Lyrics by Avicii. The name of the song is The Nights which is sung by Avicii.

One Day You Will Leave This World Behind Lyrics

Once Upon A Younger Year
When All Our Shadows Disappeared
The Animals Inside Came Out To Play
Went Face To Face With All Our Fears
Learned Our Lessons Through The Tears
Made Memories We Knew Would Never Fade

One Day My Father—he Told Me
“Son, Don’t Let It Slip Away”
He Took Me In His Arms, I Heard Him Say

“When You Get Older
Your Wild Heart Will Live For Younger Days
Think Of Me If Ever You’re Afraid”

He Said, “One Day You’ll Leave This World Behind
So, Live A Life You Will Remember”
My Father Told Me When I Was Just A Child
“These Are The Nights That Never Die”
My Father Told Me

“When Thunder Clouds Start Pouring Down
Light A Fire They Can’t Put Out
Carve Your Name Into Those Shining Stars”
He Said, “Go Venture Far Beyond The Shores
Don’t Forsake This Life Of Yours
I’ll Guide You Home No Matter Where You Are”

One Day My Father—he Told Me
“Son, Don’t Let It Slip Away”
When I Was Just A Kid I Heard Him Say

“When You Get Older
Your Wild Heart Will Live For Younger Days
Think Of Me If Ever You’re Afraid”

He Said, “One Day You’ll Leave This World Behind
So, Live A Life You Will Remember”
My Father Told Me When I Was Just A Child
“These Are The Nights That Never Die”
My Father Told Me

“These Are The Nights That Never Die”
My Father Told Me
My Father Told Me

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How to leave it all behind you at the end of the day

At the end of a long, stressful day of duties and responsibilities and hard work it can be really hard to disconnect from the office and the stress so that we don’t take it into our homes with us at night. The last thing our families want to deal with is our stress from the day – they are excited to spend time with us having fun and enjoying one another. So how do we suddenly switch modes and leave it all behind when work is over?

Our families deserve a happy “us” and that means we have to train ourselves to leave a hard day behind us and allow ourselves to focus on our families when we get home. I recently heard a story called “The Trouble Tree” that shared a great example of how we can make that happen:

“The Trouble Tree”

The carpenter who was hired to help a man restore an old farmhouse had just finished his first day on the job and everything that could possibly go wrong went wrong. First of all, on his way to work he had a flat tire that cost him an hour’s worth of pay, then his electric saw broke, and after work his old pickup truck refused to start.

His new boss volunteered to give him a lift home and the whole way to his house the carpenter sat in stone silence as he stared out his window. Yet on arriving, he invited his boss in for a few minutes to meet his family. As they walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands. When he opened the door, he underwent an amazing transformation. His tanned face was one big smile as he hugged his two small children and kissed his wife.

Afterwards, the man walked his boss to his car to say thank you. Now on their way out of the house, the boss’ curiosity got the best of him so he had to ask the man about the tree on the front porch. He said, I noticed when you came up on the porch before going into your house you stopped and touched the tree, why?

“Oh, that’s my trouble tree,” he replied. “I know I can’t stop from having troubles out on the job, but one thing’s for sure – my troubles don’t belong in the house with my wife and children. So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home. Then in the morning I pick them up again.”

“Funny thing is,” he smiled, “when I come out in the morning to pick ‘em up, they aren’t nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before.”

What a great idea! We should all come up with our own symbolic “Trouble Tree” to drop our problems off at night before we enter our homes. I am going to try it myself and report back on whether it makes a difference or not. If anyone else has ideas like this story that they have found helpful please share them in the comments on this blog. I am always happy to hear new ideas on how to handle stress – we can all use them!