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One of the best decisions I’ve ever made was to take on the job of hosting my own weekly radio show. My radio show is about finding some of the most successful people in the world and bringing them on my show to ask them about what they did to become so successful in life and business.
In this article, I’m going to share with you some of the key takeaways I’ve picked up from talking to – and reading about – thought leaders from various fields about the things successful people do. Here, you can get some insights on how to get what you want.
Ready to dive in? Let’s go.
1. They Know What They Want
The first and most important thing that successful people do to always get what they want is so simple that most people forget about it: they figure out what they actually want.
When you know what you want, you will also know how to get what you want. If you’re unsure about what you want in life and business, I’d suggest picking up some career and self-improvement books to help you gain some clarity and focus.
Not sure what you want? Find out what actually motivates you here: How to Get Motivated Every Day When You Wake Up
2. They Are Assertive
Successful people know that they need to be both bold and sincere. Balancing these two characteristics is the essence of assertiveness.
Oh, and by the way – being assertive is not a natural talent someone is born with. Assertiveness is a learned skill and anyone can do it, including you!
3. They Learn
You may have heard of the old saying, “great leaders are readers”. For the most part, I’d say this is true.
Let me give you an example. On my radio show, I regularly ask successful people about their habits that lead to success. Do you want to know something really neat? Every single one of them reads books.
Successful people read and learn as much as they can about what they want so that they can get what they want. If you’re curious about how to get what you want, then start reading a book. If you’re low on time, subscribe to a book summary site to get the core concepts of the books in your industry quickly.
4. They Make Things Meaningful
One of the most powerful things successful people do to always get what they want is that they make things meaningful. That is, they ensure that whatever endeavor they decide to embark upon is meaningful to them (and not necessarily to anyone else). They know and understand that it’s only worth it if it matters.
5. They Ask
One big thing that successful people always do to get what they want is this: they ask.
Most people are too shy to ask for what they really want. If you are too shy to ask, you may never know how to get what you want. So, don’t be like most people.
Here’s an exercise you can do to get over it: next time you’re buying something, regardless of what it is, ask for a discount. Just do it. The worst-case scenario is that you’ll get a chuckle from the Barrista at Starbucks. The best-case scenario is that you’ll get comfortable with negotiating when it’s time to buy your next car.
6. They Take Action
Insight without action is useless. Successful people know that to always get what they want, they’ve got to take massive action.
One of the most powerful exercises I’ve ever discovered is this: never leave the sight of a goal without taking some kind of action towards its achievement. In other words, as soon as you decide you want something or as soon as you set a goal of some kind, do something – anything – that shifts you closer towards getting it.
7. They Use Their Time Wisely
Have you ever heard of NET time? It stands for “No Extra Time”.
For example: when you’re driving and sitting in traffic, are you listening to Mylie Cyrus? Or are you listening to an audiobook?
Successful people take NET time seriously. Get yourself some audiobook so you can start listening to the best business and self-improvement books available – all while you’re on your way to work in the morning.
8. They Choose to Lead
You don’t need to have formal authority to become a leader. You just need to choose yourself. All successful people know this, and so should you. Knowing how to get what you want requires knowing how to lead the way for others and yourself.
Don’t wait for anyone else to do it, because the truth is that most people want to be led anyway. So, just step up and claim authority. Be the leader you wish you always had.
If you feel like you’re not ready to lead, read these 20 Best Management Books That Will Make You a Great Leader.
9. They Contribute
Successful people know that to get what they want, they have to be willing to help other people get what they want.
What happens when you stop doing your job? What happens when you stop caring about your schoolwork? What happens when you become emotionally disconnected from a relationship?
You suffer – that’s what happens. Successful people know and understand that in order to succeed, they need to contribute. They need to add value to the lives of others. They need to do their best so that they can become the best.
So, Now What?
I hope this article has re-ignited the fire that you already had within you to be successful at any endeavor. The reason why I’m stressing the fact that you’ve already got everything you need to succeed and get what you want is that you wouldn’t be reading this if you weren’t already motivated to be successful.
At the end of the day, however, all the insights in the world are worth nothing unless you combine them with action. When it’s all said and done, it’s your decision what you do with this list and how you apply it to your life and career.
But if I may, here’s what I would suggest you consider as you get started doing the things to help you succeed:
Review this list of the 9 things successful people do to always get what they want and then compare it with where you currently are at each one of these 9 things. Rate yourself in each one of the 9 things. Next, pick just ONE of them to work on every week.
For example, if you find that you’d like to learn more about the business side of the company you work for, then go read the best business books to help you do that.
Never stop learning. Always feed your mind with the knowledge you need to become as successful as possible within your area or industry. It doesn’t matter how busy you are. We’re all busy. Make the time to expand your knowledge.
And remember: every key learning should be immediately followed with action.
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It’s easy to know what we want. It’s harder to get it. Or is it? Yes, getting a new job or a raise or a promotion can be difficult, but getting what you want can be more black and white than you might think. Want something? It is crucial that you develop a game plan, an approach, a craft. How? Here are the 6 best ways to get what you want. Add them to your arsenal, and you’ll be ready to step up and conquer.
1. Ask. Ask and be specific. It sounds so obvious, and yet sometimes we expect to get exactly what we want without being clear as to what that is. Sometimes without ever having asked for it at all. Have you been wanting a raise? Or maybe you are after that newly available position? You can’t expect others to read your mind. Figure out exactly what it is you want, and ask for it clearly and confidently. Don’t beat around the bush. Express your want specifically and concisely so that there isn’t any confusion, doubt, or wiggle room on the receiver’s end.
2. Stop apologizing. It is sometimes awkward and stressful to ask for something from a higher up. It can be difficult to stand your ground, which often leads to apologizing for what you want. You might catch yourself starting with, “I’m sorry to ask, but…” and later on following up with, “If not, it’s no big deal.” Don’t. People often mistake apologizing for their wants with being polite. You can still be polite without backing down. Apologizing for your want comes across as unconfident which can make your superior feel unconfident in granting it to you. Don’t give in! Be strong! You have nothing to apologize for.
3. Make your gain their gain. Unfortunately, the days of helping for the sake of helping are out the window. The what’s in it for me attitude is a cultural norm, and you must embrace it when asking a boss or any other superior for help. It is important that the person in question views your victory as their victory. If you get what you want, how does it help them? Will it lighten their workload? Will it mean a possible promotion for them in the future? Consider what the other person has to gain, and use these benefits as one of your selling points when asking for what you want. If your achievement affects their life positively, they will be more likely to help you in the future, as well.
4. Make yourself invaluable. We all want to be irreplaceable, so make it so. If you are a true asset to your company, not only will they want to keep you around, they will want to keep you as happy as possible. Laurence Shatkin, Ph.D., author of 150 Jobs for a Secure Future, advises employees to be visible in the workplace, be exceptionally productive, and to simply be pleasant if you want to become invaluable to your company. Work hard, become an expert in your field, build a great reputation – do whatever it takes to make it much more trouble to replace you than it is to satisfy you. It is easier to ask for something when your past accomplishments speak for themselves.
5. Be prepared for your want to be fulfilled. It’s easy to wish for something, but are you truly ready for it to be bestowed upon you? The answer? You better be! You may have spent years daydreaming about the prestige that will come with that executive position, but don’t get caught with drool on your chin when it’s time to take the reigns. When you ask someone for something, the other person is always taking a risk in giving it to you. You must prove that their decision to believe in you was the correct one. Don’t let them regret it by fumbling or being unprepared. Know what responsibilities you will be taking on if given what you want, and accept them without missing a beat.
6. Persistence. Unfortunately, not every want is granted right away. Don’t give in too quickly. Just because you’ve gotten one or ten (or even a hundred) nos, it doesn’t mean you should move on. Try a new approach. If the front door is closed, try the back. Is the window open? What about the garage? Have another go at it. Lee Iacocca, the former President of Ford and Chairman of Chrysler explains, “you’ve got to say, ‘I think that if I keep working at this and want it badly enough I can have it.’ It’s called perseverance.” Keep at it.
Complaining is not a strategy, so get to work. These tips will ensure that you are heard and will help you make your case for the best possible outcome. Remember, the clearer you are in your goal, the better chance there is you will achieve it. Have faith in your wants, and get them.
I go beyond training with a straight-talking approach to wellness that focuses on an overall healthy lifestyle. For years I’ve educated celebrities and corporate…
I go beyond training with a straight-talking approach to wellness that focuses on an overall healthy lifestyle. For years I’ve educated celebrities and corporate executives on how to effectively incorporate fitness and nutrition into their busy everyday lives. I’ve appeared on Extra, The Doctors, Good Morning America and The Today Show. I’ve been a featured trainer on The CW’s Shedding for the Wedding, and am often quoted in People, Glamour, Woman’s Health and the Los Angeles Times. I’m also the author of No Gym Required – Release Your Inner Rock Star and Strong is the New Skinny– How to Eat, Live, and Move to Maximize Your Power. Beyond training, I’m the president and CEO of fitness and wellness brand NGR – No Gym Required – and I am the lifestyle and fitness spokesperson for world-class brands including Muscle Milk, Polar Heart Rate Monitors and Weight Watchers. Weight Watchers recently appointed me as their overall national spokesperson and trainer in the 5 DVD Points Plus Program workout series.