Updated on February 16, 2021 by Airyl Marie Dadula 5 Comments
Happiness is subjective. While others will say that success, wealth, and beauty do not define what happiness really is, for some people, those are everything they need. Hence, you can’t really impose on what makes people happy. If it’s not a fleeting feeling of pleasure but a lasting source of joy and contentment, then that might be your true happiness.
Now, how do you find true happiness? Here are some ways to help you find pure joy and genuine happiness in life.
1. Know what happiness means to you.
First, you need to know what happiness means to you. Your friend’s happiness might be building her own family, your happiness might be publishing your own book, and your other friend’s happiness might be accumulating wealth. Everyone has his or her own definition of happiness. You can’t undermine others’ definition of happiness; neither do they have the right to judge yours. So, don’t hesitate to ask yourself first: “What makes me really happy”?
2. Work hard for your happiness.
Knowing what makes you genuinely happy is just the first step. For you to attain happiness, you need to work hard. Is making your own name in the business industry your true happiness? Is it making your family happy that makes you happy as well? Then, work hard. Achieving your true happiness sure doesn’t happen overnight. Yes, it will never be easy, but it will all be worth it.
3. Don’t rely on other people just to make you happy.
Also, you need to remember that your happiness does not depend on other people. Be truly happy on your own. Be happy if you’re single ; there’s nothing wrong with being one. If you’re in a relationship, don’t rely on your partner too much. This is not to say that you shouldn’t be totally happy with your partner; you deserve that, but don’t forget to find ways to be genuinely happy without relying on other people.
4. Attain stability.
Let’s be realistic. It’s hard to attain true happiness if you have not yet attained stability. According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs , you need to fulfill your physiological and safety needs in order for you to attain higher needs. The same thing applies to happiness. It’s hard to attain whatever it is that makes you happy if you can’t provide for your basic needs.
5. Stay healthy.
Even if you’ve already attained happiness, if you don’t remain healthy, then everything will be put to waste. What’s wealth if you’re not capable of enjoying it? Take care of yourself. Be responsible with what you eat; be responsible with your body. You know the consequences if you don’t prioritize your health.
6. Appreciate the little things.
Sometimes, you may be too caught up in finding happiness that you tend to overlook the simple things in life that can actually make you happy. Isn’t it wonderful that you’re still breathing? Isn’t it great to see the sunrise and set? Learn to appreciate the things that you have. If you develop the attitude of being grateful, then it will be easier for you to find true happiness in life.
7. Forgive yourself and other people.
Sometimes, you end up blaming yourself for a past mistake. You think your life is miserable because of what you’ve done. If you keep blaming yourself, then you will hardly find true happiness in life. Learn to forgive yourself; know that you still have a chance to make yourself better. Also, if you hold some grudge or even hate for other people, try your best to forgive them. Don’t make that hate stop you from being truly happy in life.
8. Defeat the green-eyed monster.
Sometimes, it’s hard to beat jealousy. However, you cannot find true happiness in life if you keep comparing yourself to other people. There will always be people who are more successful, more brilliant, more good-looking than you. However, that doesn’t make you less as a person. You might have something that others don’t have. They might even be dreaming of what you already have right now, so defeat the green-eyed monster.
9. Be truly happy for other people.
Once you’ve conquered the green-eyed monster, it will be easier for you to be genuinely happy for other people. Remember that one’s success is not your failure. If your best friend just got promoted or got the chance to study abroad, be truly happy for him or her. You will get there; you have your own time zone.
10. Accept the things you can’t change.
In order to find true happiness in life, you need to accept that there are things you just can’t change. You can’t change your past mistakes, your childhood, your height, etc. There are just things that are out of your control. All you need to do is to keep moving forward and think of not doing the same mistakes.
11. Focus on what you can do.
While there are some things that you can’t change, there are so many things that you can do. Focus on them. Do you want to get the highest possible rank in the company you’re working for? Then, work hard for that goal. Have a good work ethic. Seek for self-improvement. Want to lose weight? Then, do something about it. Challenge yourself. Stay determined, dedicated, and disciplined.
12. Take a break.
No matter how passionate you are about things, you will still end up getting exhausted. That’s why it‘s important for you to take a break every once in a while. Take a nap. Travel. Go to a party. Have a drink. Read a book. Do whatever it is that makes you relaxed.
13. Surround yourself with positive people.
Another way to find true happiness in life is to surround yourself with positive people. Be with the ones who will cheer you up. Be with the ones who will uplift your spirit. Let these people inspire you to pursue what makes you happy. These people will remind you that there are so many things in life to be happy about.
14. Do something nice to other people.
One secret to finding true happiness in life is to treat other people well. You don’t have to do grand things for them. Just showing them that you care for them is already a big difference. Help an old man cross the street. Avoid gossiping. Do charity work. You might just find real purpose and happiness in life by seeing other people’s smile.
15. Conquer yourself.
Most importantly, find true happiness in life by conquering yourself. Your greatest enemy is not your neighbor, not your competitor at work, not your teacher, but yourself. Overcome your worries. Face your fears. Don’t live in the “what ifs”. Get up. Surprise yourself with the things that you never imagined you could actually do.
Indeed, finding true happiness seems a little bit tricky. However, you can always do something. Be yourself. Work hard. Never give up. Live your life the way you want it, and be happy.
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As humans, we strive to be happy all the time, whether that be appreciating what you have in your life today or planning happy moments for the future. The act of setting time aside to really focus on what makes you feel good is imperative to living a good life and appreciating what we do have.
Happiness happens one small moment at a time and it’s up to us to recognize and appreciate happy moments when they are upon us. Sometimes a small action boosts our happiness, which reminds us that happiness is a personal experience.
To get you in the happy thinking spirit, here is a thought-provoking TED talk from Robert Waldinger; a professor at Harvard Medical School who is known for his findings from the Grant Study, a 75-year-long study on adult happiness.
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WHAT MAKES A GOOD LIFE? LESSONS FROM THE LONGEST STUDY ON HAPPINESS.
Key learnings from this Happiness study (quoted):
Good relationships keep us happier and healthier
Social connections are good for us. Those who are more socially connected are happier, physically healthier and live longer.
Quality not quantity
It’s not the number of friends you have or whether you’re in a committed relationship, but it’s the quality of your close relationships.
Living in conflict is really bad for our health and the people who were most satisfied with their relationships at age 50 were also the healthiest at age 80!
Leaning into relationships is good for you
Watch the video above for a lot more insight.
Now, let’s make happiness work for you…
20 WAYS TO FIND YOUR HAPPINESS, one small moment at a time.
1. Go on a date with your best friend
2. Take a long walk to a new place
3. Listen to your favourite song
4. Visit your neighbour
5. Pick flowers
6. Have a bath
7. Cook with someone you love
8. Relax and drink tea
9. Talk to someone you don’t know
10. Stretch for 5 minutes
11. Plant some flowers
12. Make a healthy smoothie
13. Read poetry
14. Help someone in need
15. Meditate or pray
16. Dance to an amazing song
18. Write a postcard and mail it
19. Sign up to a local program
20. Tell someone you love them
- What will you do to focus on your happiness this month and this year?
- What small moments in your life make you happy?
- How can you think differently about the little things to appreciate them in a new light?
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