Label, divide and conquer your darker side to make room for your better side.
We all have our bad habits. How can we eliminate or reduce them, for the sake of ourselves and those around us? Here is a little recipe for focusing on those things you don’t like about yourself and shifting them into things you do like. Accept yourself for who you are, but still, work to grow towards being your best self.
As I travel and settle in a new city, I’m reminded that you are still traveling with yourself no matter where you are. That means all your thoughts, habits and characteristics come along. New environments and challenges can often shake those habits lose if you let them. The trick is not to ignore or push away the things you don’t like about yourself but to actually work on them while being kind to yourself at the same time.
Here’s a simple strategy I use to shift bad habits to good ones.
- First, write down your bad habits. Maybe you’re not the best morning person, or you leave the kitchen dirty and your housemates have to clean up after you. Perhaps little, inconsequential things erk-your-nerve more often than you’d like. Write down a list of 5–10 of these less-wanted habits on a sheet of paper.
- Second, next to each habit, write down how you would rather be. If you would like to be less grouchy in the morning, then put it down. If you want to be cleaner, put it down. If you want traffic to be less on your nerves, put it down.
- Third, write down little, attainable steps towards getting to that goal. For the grouchy morning person, instead of avoiding people, how about trying the opposite. Make an effort to ask 1 question to someone near you, something fun that you might actually enjoy talking about. Then leave it at that. Make the steps relatively easy and attainable. It is with small incremental changes to your bad habits over time that you will become a better version of yourself. With cleaning, try and do one task a day or week and think of it as being kind to yourself and/or your housemates. With traffic, think about how much this inconsequential thing really affects you. The answer is too much! Being in traffic is enough as it is, you don’t need to let your mind suffer for it too. Take out the drama.
- Fourth, find ways to make it fun. If you are finding that a lot of bad habits come from being annoyed or unmotivated, try making it fun. Add music, dance or reward yourself when you flip the bad habit around. Coach yourself with good incentives.
- Fifth, give yourself some time. Bad habits won’t change overnight. And you won’t succeed in turning them around each and every time. Give yourself a minimum of 30 days (and probably longer if it’s really stuck in there) to make progress and for the changes to start feeling more natural. Practice.
For me, I’m finding I have some bad habits left over from childhood. This is coming more apparent as I live with a partner for the first time. It’s silly to have these habits and I just decided I’m done with them. Scrap pieces of me that don’t need to be there anymore.
So, since I’m not really a morning person I’m going to practice leaning in instead of avoiding people in the morning. When and if the little things get to me, I’ll practice taking some deep breathes before reacting. I’ll try and remember that we live in a giant cosmos of more important stuff going on and those “little things” don’t need to bother me any more than I let them. Cheers to onwards and upwards!
Because most bad habits usually develop over time and in the long term, they can cause you problems, here are a few very helpful tips on how to get rid of bad work habits. You may discover that you have low productivity, that you deliver projects after their deadlines or that you usually arrive late to your meetings. Just think about what impression you are giving to your co-workers and try to trade your good habits for your bad ones, to work more efficiently and improve your work performance. Even though long running habits may take some time to change, you should still make consistent steps to achieve this goal. Here are 7 helpful tips on how to get rid of bad work habits that you should consider:
1. Decide That You Want to Change
One of the most important things you should do if you want to learn how to get rid of bad work habits is to first decide that you want to change. If you donвЂ™t really want to change that bad habit, then you will probably not going to find the power and the will to do it. You need to be motivated to achieve this goal and you also need to understand that bad work habits can prevent you from getting promotions and in the long term, they can even cost you your job.
2. List Your Bad Work Habits
The next thing is to make a list that should contain all those bad work habits that negatively impact your work. You could include missing deadlines, surfing the web when you should be working, being late to work or to meetings, using inappropriate humor at work, dressing unprofessionally, and being noisy or disruptive in the office, as examples.
3. Spend Some Time Taking Stock of Your Work Habits
That list of bad work habits could take you some time, so try to spend at least one week making it. You may not be able to list all your bad work habits at once, so try to journal things that you think are slowing you down and reassess that list at the end of the week. DonвЂ™t forget about those common productivity-draining habits like eating lunch at your desk or checking your e-mail all the time.
4. Prioritize Your Bad Habits
Prioritize your bad habits, establishing which habits you would like to break first. Just think of their importance and the way they are affecting your work performance and your career and try to get rid of one bad habit each month. Make sure that you list those habits that affect your managers and your co-workers as top priority, and get rid of them first.
5. List the Steps That You Will Take to Change Your Bad Habit
Psychologists say that if you want to break a bad habit, you need to be specific when you decide what steps you need to take to achieve this goal, because it will increase your chances of success. For example, if you canвЂ™t meet deadlines, you should view them as non-negotiable parts of your job. Create a negative risk if you miss a deadline and create a positive incentive if you make all deadlines in a week.
6. Remove All Temptations
DonвЂ™t let anything distract you from reaching your goal, so try to remove all temptations to continue the habit. For example, if you check your e-mail too often, simply close that program. If you usually arrive late at work, then set your clocks ahead or you could even ask one of your colleagues to do it for you, so you wonвЂ™t know how early you are.
7. Track Your Progress
If you want to get rid of a bad habit that you developed while at work, then you should track your progress. Just keep track of your actions and look for progress over a period of days. Be patient with your progress, since bad habits are easier to start than good ones.
To break a bad work habit you need to have a lot of will power, patience and desire to change. Do you you know any other helpful tips on how to get rid of bad work habits? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!
How I learned to accept that I can’t change my bad habits overnight, and instead learned to part with them gradually.
We can all think of that one pesky bad habit that we can’t seem to shake. I had been operating at a productivity scale that only ever achieved the bare minimum, and it dawned on me that wasn’t always the case. I had a solid routine in the past, waking up at a reasonable hour, moving through the work without worry that I wasn’t getting anywhere.
For a while, I blamed my inability to remain consistent with my dwindling inspiration. Still, I later acknowledged that breaking bad habits and creating new ones to take their places was going to be quite challenging.
My bad habit is an inconsiderable lack of sleep. I’d wake up far later than I’d want, feeling terrible at the start of the workday for beginning in the afternoon. I felt tired, groggy, and withdrawn every single time with no change in sight.
I did everything I was told, switching off at a reasonable hour, reading before bed, and allowing my mind to drift for a little while. I genuinely believed that I was going to fall asleep early enough to feel rested when I woke without having any trouble whatsoever. That was my first mistake.
I didn’t realize how persistent my bad habit became until I tried to break it.
My lack of sleep was taking a toll on my work, personal life, and mental health, but I had no idea what could be done about it.
Once that determination starts to dissipate, you might find yourself right back at square one. I began to beat myself up about slipping back into that bad habit instead of acknowledging the small changes I was making.
Whatever you may be trying to change or implement, your heart has to be in it enough to encourage that change to take place. If you don’t believe it’s going to happen, then who will?
We’re all trying to better ourselves one way or another. It’s important to remember that a lasting change in your daily habits will take time to stick, and as much as we want them to change overnight — they probably won’t.
I’ve been spending more time trying to fit into the mold of a schedule that once felt normal, but as things continue to change rapidly every day, I’ve learned to accept when I slip up, and those bad habits creep back in.
I wasted so much energy criticizing myself for not being able to reset on command, looking to everyone else for the answers I couldn’t find. I stopped attempting to fit into routines that weren’t working and spent more time doing what I love.
It’s easy to let ourselves go, chuck the responsibilities, and give in to the bad habits at a time like this. Though, I’m trying to utilize this time to write relentlessly and challenge myself to test out new things rather than focusing on what’s going to take a while to change.
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Over the course of our lives, we’ve all developed behaviors or routines that have not served us well in our quest for happiness or success. Although these habits have kept us from achieving our goals, we often find it difficult to break free of them.
Sometimes, these negative behaviors become so routine that we perform them without thinking. But over time, bad habits are bound to become obstacles, weighing us down, forcing us to acknowledge that they are not good for us. We will soon feel an urgency to break free.
“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.”
When we begin to feel the burden of our bad habits, we look around for a quick fix. We turn to others for direction or answers on how to get rid of them. But the truth is that, breaking bad habits are highly dependent on “the man in the mirror.”
We must first have the desire or motivation to make a change. Then we must change our mindset and our attitude. This drives us to make the decision to do things differently: to break the habit, or change it. Of course, we must effect a change by doing things in a new manner or using a new method.
The mechanism to break bad habits or to change must come from within us and not from others. This quote from former U.S. President Barack Obama not only applies to the broad scope of society and culture, but it applies to the needs of our individual selves:
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”
So, here 15 more motivational quotes to inspire each of us to drop the bad habits, which stand between us and our personal fulfillment.
Inspiring Quotes on Getting Rid of Bad Habits
“You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, ‘I release the need for this in my life’.” – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
“There are no shortcuts for nurturing the movement toward wholeness other than drinking from the well of self-love.” – Don Stapleton
“You cannot change your future; but, you can change your habits, and surely your habits…will change your future.” – Dr. Abdul Kalam
“Saying NO to the wrong things creates space to say YES to the right things.” – Mack Story
“TRANSFORMATION is much more than using skills, resources and technology. It’s all about HABITS of mind.” – Malcolm Gladwell
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” – Aristotle
“To change habits, we must study the habits of successful role models.” – Jack Canfield
“Ultimately, your state of mind determines your circumstances. To realize the outcomes you want, it is critical to recognize and experience the transition from our present thoughts, habits, and actions to new thoughts, habits, and actions.” – Darren L. Johnson
“Nothing happens until the pain of remaining the same outweighs the pain of change.” – Arthur Burt
“The secret of change is to focus all your energy NOT on fighting the old but on BUILDING the new.” – Socrates
“If you’re gonna make a change, you’re gonna have to operate from a new belief that says life happens not to me but for me.” – Tony Robbins
“REAL TRANSFORMATION requires real honesty. If you want to move forward – get real with yourself.” – Bryant McGill
“Starting something new or making a big change requires effort, persistence and motivation…Doubt, fear and worry will only slow you down. Focus on doing your best now and celebrate every step of the way.” – Doe Zantamata
“Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant.” – Tony Robbins
“How does one become a butterfly? You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” – Unknown
Ready to kick those bad habits goodbye?
These inspiring quotes remind us that self-evaluation and mindset changes are necessary in any effort to break bad habits. Breaking bad habits require a process – NOT a knee-jerk reaction.
We must be willing to take our lives off autopilot – to evaluate our routines, behaviors, and attitudes. We should determine the most favorable adjustments for our well-being, then, implement them accordingly.
We all have habits, things that we do routinely, almost as a second nature. However, have you ever wondered whether some of the things that you’ve been doing for so long are bad for you? If you know about your bad habits, why don’t you get rid of them?
People live with their bad habits because they haven’t realized how bad those habits are, it’s too hard to get rid of them or getting rid of them has not become enough of a priority… after all, we cannot be perfect, right? We are not perfect, but nothing prevents us from improving. Why should we let bad habits define us or drag us down?
Following are some self-improvement tips to get rid of your bad habits:
1) Study Your Bad Habits
Breaking a bad habit is not easy. Unless you truly understand the root of the problem, you won’t be able to devise a strategy to get rid of it. Take a cold hard look at your bad habit. Following are some questions you should seriously consider answering:
- When did you acquire the habit?
- Why is it that you have the habit? / How did you acquire the habit?
- What is the need that it fulfills?
- How bad do you want to get rid of the habit?
- How would you benefit from getting rid of the habit?
2) Prepare a Plan of Action
Now that you understand the problem, you can go to the next stage of finding a solution. There are many ways to get rid of bad habits. Be creative. It’s not enough to tell yourself that you should stop doing something. You have to understand that the battle to get rid of a bad habit is a battle that will oppose you against your own self. How do you win against yourself? The only way to win this battle is to have enough conviction to see things through and to be able to see beyond the tricks that your mind will play. You need to plan ahead and you need to set objective boundaries ahead of time. The moment you decide to get rid of a bad habit is the moment that you are the most objective. Use this moment of lucidity and resolve to your advantage to set the rules of the game. Keep to the rules. Don’t let your brain trick you into making excuses later on and revert back to your old self.
3) Understand the Need for Change
The only way to get rid of a bad habit is to have enough conviction to see things through. The foundation for your conviction resides in your understanding of the need for change. Unless there is a strong impetus for change, change will not happen, or will not last.
4) Be Specific
Being specific is about making sure you are accountable to yourself. For instance, telling yourself that you want to “eat healthier” is the path to failure. What does that mean? Does it mean that you get to eat junk food once in a while, as long as you eat a healthy meal to compensate? Giving yourself general goals is opening the door to excuses. The only way to avoid going down this path is to be clear on what you need to do or avoid doing. For instance, in keeping with the above example, if you tell yourself that you will drink tea in the morning instead of coffee or that you will eat at the restaurant only once a week (including take-out), you will be in position to keep yourself accountable. Draw a clear line that you will not cross.
5) Incorporate Reminders
The difficulty most people face when they want to change habits is that they lose motivation after a while. We all live busy lives. It’s easy to fall back onto our old habits, our old selves. A simple trick to fix this is to incorporate reminders in your daily life to keep you on track. A simple reminder, yet very effective, is to modify your email password (or other password) to add a reference to your resolution. Let’s say your resolution is to exercise twice a week for at least 30 minutes. Your email password could be “gym30mweekx2”. Every time you log into your email, you will be reminded of your resolution. The best part of this, nobody else needs to know.
You tried to get rid of your bad habit once already and it didn’t work. Don’t give up yet. Try again, but this time with more determination. See where you failed last time and avoid repeating the same mistakes. You will get there. Believe it.
How Do I Get Rid of Bad Habits?
God, in His great love for you, has provided deliverance for every area of your life—spirit, soul and body.
The Bible tells us that we have been delivered from the power (authority) of darkness (Satan) and translated into the kingdom of God’s dear Son (Colossians 1:13). This is not something we are going to be someday—we are now. Romans 8:2 says, “For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.” Satan’s authority over your life has been destroyed! When this revelation becomes a reality in your life, the habits of the old man will disappear.
Receiving what Jesus did for you takes away Satan’s right to keep you in bondage. Satan cannot pressure you with anything that you cannot overcome with God’s Word (1 Corinthians 10:13). When a thought contrary to your decision comes, immediately cast it down and make it subject to the work Jesus Christ has done for you (2 Corinthians 10:4-5). Any thought other than what you have willed to think in this situation has been placed there by Satan to deceive you. Resist him and he will flee (James 4:7). He cannot stay around while you are continually speaking the Word.
Create new habits—reprogram your mind and inner man with the Word of God. As you speak God’s Word concerning your redemption, the life residing in the Word will make you free. Honor the work that has been done for you by making a quality decision to do everything to the glory and honor of the Father. Everything you do in word or deed, do in the Name of the Lord Jesus (Colossians 3:17). Speak the Word today and pray this prayer of deliverance:
Father, I believe that my faith becomes effectual—divinely energized—by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in me in Christ Jesus. Through my union with Christ, I am a new creature, old things are passed away and all things have become new.
I was crucified with Christ, nevertheless I live, yet not I, but Christ lives in me. I was buried with Him in baptism, and raised together with Him by the power of the Holy Spirit so that I might habitually live and behave in newness of life. My old, unrenewed self was nailed to the Cross with Him in order that my body, which is the instrument of sin, might be made ineffective and inactive for evil and that I might no longer be the slave of sin.
Just as death no longer has power over Jesus Christ, neither does sin have dominion over me through my union with Him. I consider myself dead to sin and my relation to it broken. I am alive only to God, living in unbroken fellowship with Him, in Christ Jesus.
I have been delivered from the control and dominion of _________ and transferred into the kingdom of light. I have been raised together with Him, far above principalities, powers, rulers of the darkness of this world and wicked spirits in high places. Sin shall no longer exert dominion over me, but I have dominion over sin. It is under my feet, in the Name of Jesus. Amen.
Scripture References: Philemon 6; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Galatians 2:20; Romans 6:4, 6, 10-11; Colossians 1:13; Ephesians 2:6, 1:21, 6:12; Romans 6:14
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How to Get Rid of Bad Habits
If you’re tired of the same excuse that you hear or the excuse you use to justify some bad habits that sounds like: “it’s a bad habit I just can’t shake” make sure you have exhausted all possibilities before giving up.
There are many ways that teach you how to get rid of bad habits for good. If this doesn’t work you can try another trick-replacing the bad habits with good ones. All you have to do is be determined, get motivated by a purpose (giving up a vice, for example, will make you feel healthier) and have more patience and take things easy because it takes time to break a bad habit and change for the better.
Think of the Consequences
This means: get informed. The bad habits that you have come with different consequences. Analyze the impact some bad habits have over your financial situation, time and health. After you come to the right conclusion and realize how bad a certain habit can be, think of different plans that you can try till you break a certain habit. This would be the first step; the most important one.
Admit There Will Be Difficult Stages
When breaking a bad habit, you have to take into consideration certain aspects. For example, you might make some mistakes along the way. You might indulge in smoking a cigarette or drinking a glass of wine or do whatever it is that you consider being a bad habit. You have to be true to yourself. You can’t get cold turkey without relapsing a bit. But the trick is to not give up. Take it one step at a time. Baby steps are more than welcome when it comes to changing something that used to be a big part of your life. Routine and bad habits take time to be changed. As long as you’re determined, you can, for example, reduce the number of cigarettes you smoke till you end up chewing gum instead of smoking and one fine day you won’t feel the urge of going back to your vice.
Support Groups and Forums
If, for some reasons, you just can’t shake off a habit you can seek support groups, forums or even go to a therapist that can help you give up a certain bad habit. A lot of people reach out for help and you should do the same, especially if the situation is more than you can handle at the present time.
This is yet another tricky part. You may be faced with different situations where something triggers your addiction or something reminds you of your bad habits. Avoid persons that might tempt you to return to your bad habits. Even if it hurts; explain the situation to these persons. If they respect your decision, they will try, by all means, not to remind you of your bad habits. A friend that smokes when you’re struggling to quit smoking shouldn’t smoke in your presence. This goes for other bad habits, too. If they don’t quit, keep your distance till you feel safe enough to be in their presence. When your bad habits are no longer a temptation you can reconnect with your friends.
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From daily tooth-brushing to the 11am coffee, we all have dozens of habits that get us through our daily routine.
Some are great – weekly gym visits are often encouraged – others not so much, like smoking a pack a day, or dialling the number of the pizza place way too often.
Because we recognise our habits as useful or detrimental behaviours, we often strive to shape them accordingly.
There’s no shortage of apps out there designed to help you form a habit, and many of those are built on the assumption that all you need is 21 days.
This number comes from a widely popular 1960 book called Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, a plastic surgeon who noticed his patients seemed to take about 21 days to get used to their new faces.
However, according to a 2009 study, the time it takes to form a habit really isn’t that clear-cut.
Researchers from University College London examined the new habits of 96 people over the space of 12 weeks, and found that the average time it takes for a new habit to stick is actually 66 days; furthermore, individual times varied from 18 to a whopping 254 days.
The take-away message here is that if you want to develop a new behaviour, it will take at least two months, and you shouldn’t despair if three weeks doesn’t do the trick – for most people that’s simply not enough.
Stick with it for longer, and you’ll end up with a habit you can keep without thinking.
But what about trying to break an unwanted habit?
It turns out the two – habit forming and breaking – can be quite closely linked.
As psychologist Timothy Pychyl explains to Alison Nastasi at Hopes and Fears, they’re two sides of the same coin: “Breaking a habit really means establishing a new habit, a new pre-potent response. The old habit or pattern of responding is still there (a pattern of neuron responses in the brain), but it is less dominant (less potent).”
“It’s much easier to start doing something new than to stop doing something habitual without a replacement behaviour,” says neuroscientist Elliot Berkman.
“That’s one reason why smoking cessation aids such as nicotine gum or inhalers tend to be more effective than the nicotine patch.”
Experts agree that there’s no typical time frame for breaking a habit, and the right recipe is going to be a mix of personality, motivation, circumstances, and the habit in question.
“People who want to kick their habit for reasons that are aligned with their personal values will change their behaviour faster than people who are doing it for external reasons such as pressure from others,” says Berkman.
According to psychology professor Susan Krauss Whitbourne, sometimes a habit can be broken quickly: “In extreme cases, the habit can be broken instantly, such as if you happen to become violently ill when you inhale cigarette smoke or nearly get hit by a bus when texting and walking.”
But in most cases it’s going to take longer than that, and you should probably allow for at least two months.
To successfully break a habit, you need to think of your strongest motivation, which will drive you along.
Think of a ‘replacement behaviour’ for the habit, but make sure it’s a positive one – replacing smoking with snacking is a common trap, for example.
And be patient. The longer you’ve had a habit, the longer it will take to get rid of it.
“Longtime habits are literally entrenched at the neural level, so they are powerful determinants of behavior,” explains Berkman.
“The good news is that people are nearly always capable of doing something else when they’re made aware of the habit and are sufficiently motivated to change.”
So stay strong, you can do it.
A version of this article was first published in September 2015.
I bite my nails(not realy short), i crack any knuckle i can, i sway when i have nothing to do and i scratch my skin when my hands arent doing anything. My habits are not realy noticeable(at least i think) but they bug me cu i know im doing it and i tell myself to stop but the habit always comes back.
u bite ur nails.
u shoulld cut ur nails as soon they grow. so u dont have anything to bite afterward.
i crack my knuckles alot i m tryting to get rid of that habbit too .
scrathing ur skin .. um u should always be doing something then. keep doing something and something with ur hands.. playing on ur cellphone.. swtiching songs frm ipod.
um. is it more like when u dont have anything in ur hand u scratch skin? if yes, then always hold something like pen or keys or anyotehr sutff.. like water bottle. stuff liekthat
this will help u forgot ur habbit of ccracking knuckles too.. for me it is almost gone
I am also a knuckle cracker and sway-er. lol.
They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. If you do something (or don’t do something) for 21 days, it will become a habit.
it relies upon what this is that if its biting ur nails, you need to purchase this actual nail polish that tastes terrible so whenever you attempt to chew them you will stop if its chewing the lower back of ur pen, you need to start up making use of pencil — beleive me — the 1st time u chew the eraser and the steel section preserving it on. you will stop continually if its something else i might merely tell my friends to stop me every time i do it, that way unwell become extra attentive to when I do it, and that they are going to tell u to stop each and every time so finally u wont do it anymore. stable success getting rid of ur behavior!
take control and don’t let your habits control you, its all in mind and you must learn to control this,it’s tuff but as you work with it, it will eventually start to work for you. So take control and get rid of these habits once and for all. Good Luck.
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Breaking bad habits is one of the hardest things a person can do. These habits often take years to develop, and taking the time to acknowledge they’re bad for you, as well as stopping doing them, will be difficult. However, there are ways to make your journey smoother. With that said, here are the best ways to get rid of bad habits quickly!
Understand What Triggers These Habits
The first step to overcoming your bad habits is finding and understanding what causes you to do these habits. Many times you don’t realize you are doing the bad habits because it is second nature (such as biting your nails, or only buying junk food), and understanding what makes you do these habits is the first thing you can do to stop them.
Avoid Being In Situations That Lead To These Bad Habits
After understanding what triggers your bad habits, you need to stop putting yourself in situations that will lead to that trigger. One of the most common misconceptions is that sheer will power will make you stop your bad habit.
This is not the case, and you want to avoid anything that can potentially lead to you falling back onto that bad habit as much as possible. If you have a habit of biting your nails, add some nontoxic yet bad tasting chemicals on them. If your habit is eating only junk food, make a decision to have a healthier lifestyle. If you’re constantly going to the bar while you try and control your drinking addiction, it will never end well for you.
Think About Why You Want To Stop The Habit
Sometimes a habit can be detrimental to your health, sometimes you realize it’s just not good for the lifestyle you want to life. Thinking about why you want to stop the habit will keep you more motivated to see it through, and will prevent you from falling back into the habit.
Weigh Short Term Suffering Vs Long Term Happiness
After you realize why you want to stop the habit, it will start of very difficult to actually do. Although you’re suffering in the moment (or at least you will feel like it), you need to keep the big picture in mind at all times. Whether it’s exercise pains, or you suffer from withdrawal, the longer you work towards your goal of ending that bad habits, the easier in the long run it will become to have that healthier lifestyle.
Replace Bad Habits With A Healthy One
It can seem impossible to just delete your bad habit, as they often take time out of your day. Instead of completely removing it, replace that bad habit with a healthy one.
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If you have a gambling habit/addiction, do something productive with your money, or play a sport when you have those tendencies again. This not only keeps your mind off that bad habit, but gives you something fun, healthy, and less damaging to do (keeping your mental health in check).
Celebrate Your Milestones
You have to remember that bad habits will take time to get rid of (as they took time to develop). Break down your goal into several segments; like how many pounds you plan to lose, or how many days of sobriety you want. When you hit each milestone, make sure to celebrate it one way or another. Doing this will not only award yourself for your hard work and determination, but will make you never want to go back to the bad habits again!
These are our best ways to get rid of bad habits quickly! Let us know in the comments which methods you find best for yourself, and why they are so effective!
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Prompt: Guthrie’s theory of learning includes several applications for real life learning problems, including three methods of getting rid of bad habits (the fatigue, incompatible response and the threshold methods). For this writing assignments, students will utilize their knowledge of Guthrie’s methods to generate a plan for getting rid of one of their own bad habits.
To earn full credit on this assignment students should:
• Define what a habit is using Guthrie’s terminology.
• Identify what your particular bad habit is that you would like to break.
• Explain how the number of cues are related to the strength of a habit.
• List the cues (both external and internal) that are associated with your bad habit.
• Explain how each of Guthrie’s three method of breaking bad habits work.
• Generate a plan for using each of Guthrie’s three methods to break your bad habit.
• Define sidetracking, explain how it could be used to reduce your bad habit and hypothesize why sidetracking isn’t the best option for dealing with bad habits in general and your bad habit in particular.
• 12 point Times New Roman Font
• Double spaced
• Normal (1″) margins
• Name and Date at top of Page
• Title at top of first page (no separate title page needed)
• AP formating for references (not required for this writing assignment but if you want to use some…)
We all have a love-hate relationship with our jobs — can’t do with them, but unfortunately can’t do without them either. As if your highly demanding boss and nerve-wracking deadlines weren’t enough to make every day at work dreadful, your own habits are the cherry on top. Your attitude could make work so much more bearable! From whining about the workload to wasting time gossiping about your co-workers, we’re all guilty of one of these self-destructive habits. Scroll through them and find out which one you need to get rid of first!
1. Constant Complaining
Complaining about your work load, workplace, or colleagues can be understandable, but constantly whining about it won’t help anyone. In fact, it only makes things worse. Not only will it keep you in a bad mood all day, but your colleagues will start finding your company too negative. Instead, accept reality and find ways to make it more bearable. If it’s related to work stress, talk to your boss about it. If it’s the work environment that you find too suffocating, try making it more fun.
This one’s a no brainer. Procrastinating at work is a tale as old as time. But no habit is too old to let go of though! Believe it or not, the majority of your work problems are the result of you procrastinating. A great way to curb this habit is to make your next due task your first priority, and set a goal to achieve within a specific time frame. Looking for more ways to avoid procrastinating at work? Click here.
3. Avoiding Work Events
After an exhausting day at work the only thing one longs to do is to get into their cosy bed and binge watch Netflix. Your need to avoid interacting with the same people from your office after work is totally justified. But being absent at every work event can have a huge impact on your work life. You may miss out on some great network building opportunities!
4. Overthinking Your Mistakes
The idea you thought everyone would love turned out to be an unimpressive one? Made a mistake? It’s not the end of the world. Accept your faults, take responsibility, and move on. Overthinking about it will only make you more anxious and obstruct your creativity and thinking.
5. Indulging In Gossip
The worst of co-worker is the one you can’t trust! Nothing disturbs a healthy work environment like useless gossip. Not only will it create a bad image of you among your co-workers but it will also heavily affect your work. Indulging in gossip means you’ll hardly ever be able to concentrate on your actual assignments.
6. Skipping Meals And Breaks
Meal breaks aren’t a luxury at work, but a necessity. You won’t be getting a bonus for finishing your work earlier by skipping your much needed lunch breaks. This way you’re only making things tougher for yourself, as well as your co-workers. Unless you’re on a tight deadline or in the midst of some serious crisis, always take out some time from your busy schedule and make the most of it. You’ll have more energy throughout the day too.
I’ve been a bit quiet on the blog front in the last couple of weeks.
The main reason is that I’ve been in Thailand!
I put up a whole lot of posts and videos on my social media accounts about it – please check them out if you haven’t already!
I’m also part way through writing up a blog entry about my experience over there, but I’ve only been back a couple of days so it’s not done yet. I’ll hopefully have it for you soon though.
In the meantime, I want to talk a bit more about habits.
Last time I talked about the power of habits, and how they have such a huge influence on all of us.
One question I’ve been asked many times is: “Max, how do I get rid of bad habits?”
We all have them.
Bad habits that is.
Many people have bad food habits, such as that donut every day after lunch when you’re feeling low on energy and need a pick-me-up, or ducking down to the local Maccas for a sneaky Big Mac a couple of times a week because you can’t be bothered cooking.
But they could also be habits that result in a lack of exercise or movement, or perhaps the most insidious ones, those mindset habits that regularly get you into a bad frame of mind, which then impacts all parts of your life.
Whatever your bad habits are, I’m sure you’d like to get rid of them.
Well, I’ll let you in on a little secret …
You should stop trying to get rid of them.
That was not a typo! The secret to getting rid of bad habits is to stop trying to get rid of them.
The reason has to do with human psychology. The more we focus on something, the more it dominates our thoughts, and when it’s something we’re trying to get rid of, that focus can actually inhibit our ability to remove it.
It’s a little bit like when you’re embarrassed about something and you know you’re about to blush, and you desperately try not to … but the more you think about not blushing, the more likely you are to actually blush!
So it is with habits. The more you tell yourself not to do something, the more focus your brain puts on it, and the harder it can become to not do.
So instead, try replacing it with something healthier.
When you feel down in energy in the afternoon, instead of a donut, have a piece of fruit.
If you can’t be bothered cooking, don’t go to McDonalds. Go to Hungry Jacks. (Joking!). Don’t go to either one. Instead, have some leftovers out of the fridge, or go out and buy yourself a salad.
In other words, solve the underlying need in another, healthier, way.
If you can do this, then before you know it the old “bad habit” will be little more than a bad memory.
Of course, identifying attainable, sustainable, healthy habits to replace your current bad habits is not always easy. That’s where I can help though. Just drop me an email at [email protected] or give me a call on (03) 9864 1833.
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No matter what goals you’ve set for 2017, you’ll struggle to reach them if your brain is working against you. The way you think affects how you feel and how you behave. And it only takes one bad mental habit to hold you back.
Getting rid of your bad mental habits will help you work smarter, not harder. Your good habits will become more effective when you’ve eliminated the unhealthy habits that steal your time and rob you of mental strength.
Here are a few bad mental habits to kick for the new year so you can meet your goals:
1. Create behavioral experiments to challenge your self-limiting beliefs.
Everyone experiences self-limiting beliefs at one time or another. Maybe you think you’re not good enough to get a promotion. Or perhaps you’re convinced no one would like you if they really knew you.
Those self-limiting beliefs will turn into self-fulfilling prophecies–unless you challenge them. Remember, your beliefs aren’t necessarily true.
Be willing to prove yourself wrong. Take one small step to challenge your beliefs. When you view life as a series of behavioral experiments, you can test the negative assumptions you make about yourself.
2. Replace victim language with statements that empower you.
Saying things like “My friends make me spend more money than I want” or “My boss makes me feel bad about myself” will cause you to become a victim of your circumstances. It’s important to recognize that no matter how tough things are, you have choices.
Stop giving away your personal power. Remember that the only person who controls how you think, feel, and behave is you.
When you find yourself blaming other people–or your circumstances–stop yourself. Use language that empowers you to be in the driver’s seat in your life.
3. Practice self-compassion.
Beating yourself up after a mistake or calling yourself names won’t motivate you to do better. In fact, it’ll hurt your performance and drag you down.
If you want to do better, practice self-compassion. Talk to yourself like a trusted friend. Be honest, but refuse to be overly self-critical.
So rather than calling yourself an idiot for messing up, remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes. Commit to learning from your mistakes so you can do better next time.
4. Behave like the person you want to become.
Thinking “I wish I could be a happier person” or “I wish I could be a morning person” won’t do you any good. If you want to change your life, you have to get out of your head and make it happen.
The best way to do that is to behave like the person you want to become. Whether you want to be a productive person or a mentally strong person, ask yourself, “What does a person like that do?”
Then, behave like the person you want to become. That doesn’t mean acting fake or pretending to be someone you’re not. Instead, it’s about becoming the best version of yourself by changing the way you behave.
5. Practice living in the moment.
It’s easy to waste time wishing the past were different or worrying about what might happen in the future. But the only time you can change your life is right now.
If you want to improve yourself, pay attention to what is going on around you right now. Mindfulness takes practice and a concerted effort. But over time, you can learn how to become fully aware of the here and now.
Research has linked mindfulness to everything from better health and improved relationships to heightened focus and increased mental strength.
Build Your Mental Muscle
The good news is, people have the ability to train their brain for happiness and success. Becoming aware of your bad habits is the first step in creating positive change.
Letting go of your bad mental habits will jump-start your mental strength training. Commit to building mental muscle and no matter what obstacles you face, you’ll be prepared to reach your goals.
H aving habits can often be a good thing. When you drive to work for example, you don’t need to wonder whether you should turn left or right; the route becomes habit.
“We want the brain to learn how to do those things without energy and effort,” says Russell Poldrack, a professor of psychology at Stanford University. “Habits are an adaptive feature of how the brain works.”
But sometimes, habits can lead us astray—whether it’s turning to comfort food when we’re sad, or taking a cigarette break when stressed.
Since habits take practice and repetition to form, the same is true when it comes to breaking them, says Elliot Berkman, director of the University of Oregon’s Social and Affective Neuroscience Lab. In order to eliminate those pesky habits—whatever they may be—start with these five strategies.
Sink your stress levels
Many habits—including smoking or excess sugar consumption—involve the brain’s dopamine (or reward) system. Dopamine is a “feel-good” chemical that transmits signals between neurons in the brain. The first time you engage in a new, “rewarding” behavior, you get a euphoric feeling from doing it as a result of a dopamine release, notes Poldrack. This leads to changes in both the connections between neurons and the brain systems responsible for actions—and can largely account for why we start to form bad habits in the first place.
Many of these rewarding stimuli—like sugar or substances—are powerful, too. And our physiological reaction to them in present day can be linked all the way back to evolution, says Poldrack. In the cavemen days, meat wasn’t salted, dry-rubbed or grilled to perfection. “Our brains aren’t well-equipped to deal with the big rush one gets from these sorts of things,” Poldrack says. As a result, the frontal lobe, the brain’s “control center,” gets overwhelmed, he says.
“You’re more likely to do the thing you don’t want to do when you’re stressed out,” Poldrack says.
There are however, ways to address the root cause of these seemingly detrimental habits.
Some solutions? Try to get more sleep, exercise regularly and opt for stress reduction techniques like meditation, which can all work to increase willpower and overall brain health, says Poldrack.
Know your cues
Habits, Berkman says, have three main parts: a cue, a routine and a reward.
Cues are the context where you tend to engage in the behavior. If you’re a smoker for example, the cue might be work breaks. If you’re a dessert aficionado, it might be simply scouring the dessert menu. “You’re most likely to relapse in the context of when you’ve done it before,” Berkman says.
Knowing your triggers can help you avoid them. Berkman suggests that smokers dispose of items like ashtrays that might remind them of their habit or people who are trying to cut back on drinking should avoid walking by the bar they always pop into for happy hour.
Capitalizing on major life changes can also help break an unhealthy habit. While you might think a cross-country move or a new job is no time to introduce even more changes into your life, Berkman notes that shifts in lifestyle can actually be the ideal opportunity for eliminating a vice. “You’re going into new contexts and situations, so you don’t have those same cues—it’s a chance to form new habits,” he says.
If you’re used to lighting up on your way to work for instance, moving to a new city gives you a chance to take public transportation or to dig into a new podcast instead of a pack of cigarettes, because you are in a new environment, says Berkman.
Replace a bad habit with a good one
Instead of trying to stop doing something—“It’s hard to stop a behavior,” says Berkman—start doing something else.
“We are action-oriented creatures,” says Berkman. Some studies have shown that the more you suppress your thoughts, the more likely you are to think about that thought or even revert back to that bad habit. A 2008 study in Appetite, found that those who suppressed their thoughts about eating chocolate exhibited a behavioral rebound effect, where they consumed significantly more chocolate than those who didn’t. Similarly, a 2010 study published in Psychological Science found that smokers who tried to restrain their thoughts about smoking wound up thinking about it even more.
If you’re a smoker and you tell yourself not to smoke, your brain still hears “smoke,” Berkman says. Conversely, if you tell yourself to chew gum every time you want a cigarette, your brain has a more positive, concrete action to do, he notes. Similarly, if 5 p.m. has been linked with a glass of wine for years, use it as a time to, instead, double down on hydration and make sure the fridge is stocked with seltzers, cold water and lemon, Berkman says.
But forming a new habit takes time and commitment, so don’t be discouraged if it takes longer than you might expect. A 2010 study published in The European Journal of Social Psychology found it took an average of 66 days for a behavior to change (though time varied from 18 to 254 days).
Have a better reason for quitting
Even if you replace a “bad” habit with a better one, sometimes the original vice will have a stronger biological “reward” than its substitute, Berkman says. For example, your brain knows that gum is not nicotine and therefore won’t produce the same euphoric feeling that smoking a cigarette would, he says. This is where the importance of having an intrinsic motivation comes into play.
Intellectually, we know that quitting smoking is good for our health and limiting how many burgers we eat might help us lose weight. But rooting habit changes in specific and personal reasons—giving up smoking for good may mean spending more years with your family or eating healthier may give you more energy for those outdoor adventures you used to enjoy—provides a stronger dose of motivation, says Berkman.
Set better goals
Rather than focusing on a more general goal—like I will not grab a cookie on the way out of the cafeteria—Poldrack suggests imagining more specifically how you’ll implement this goal into your daily life.
Examining how you’ve responded to the situation in the past and determining what you can do to avoid the cookies in the future, might be all it takes to break the habit, says Poldrack. This may mean simply not walking by the rack of sweets itself.
“It’s always going to be easier to react based on something you’ve already planned out in the past versus trying to come up with a new plan on the fly,” Poldrack says.
Plus, thinking about how exactly you’re going to do something helps you develop the mindset that you can do something, he notes. And that’s half the battle.
Some people have bad habits they can’t easily break. Bad habits are things that could hinder your advancement and self-growth.
Do you want to break free of your bad habit?
Sow an act, reap a habit;
Sow a habit, reap a character;
Sow a character, reap a destiny.
Do you want to live fully and effectively without unnecessary baggage?
Then read the tips below to get rid of any bad habits that could help
1. Decide to quit, and make it firm. The decision should come from you – from deep within you. It should not be because somebody told you so.
It should be because you wanted it to happen.
2. Make a plan and stick to it.
You won’t break a habit just by your convictions alone.
Something has to be done
Devise a plan as to how you intend to break your habit.
3. Take away all the physical things that could remind you of your habit.
This could be your favourite ashtray or your favourite wine glass.
No matter what it is and no matter how precious it may seem, if it reminds you of your bad habit, it has to go.
4. Tell those around you of your intentions and ask them to support you.
You are going to fail if the closest people in your life are not behind you in this.
Your helpers have to be fully informed that you intend to break free from your habit.
5. Get some professional help.
There are times that eliminating bad habit can be hard to achieve.
When you feel that way, consider calling up the hotline of a professional organization that can help you the most in the psychological, physical, and emotional aspects.
Do not falter in your conviction to change.
If you encounter disappointments and defeats, you still have to push forward. Lapses are normal, but it should not be an excuse to go back to the bad habit that you have always wanted to get rid of.
Do not tolerate your bad habits. Get rid of them. If only because you promised yourself you would.
Habits have enormous power – we have talked about bad habits and what to do to move on – now let’s focus on the good habits we would like to have.
Most habits are actions we carry out without even thinking about it – we move about on automatic pilot, so to change we must change our actions for it is actions that create habits.
Another short verse – this from J. Paul Getty
“The individual who wants to reach the top in business must appreciate the might of the force of habit – and must understand that practices are what create habits. He must be quick to break those habits that can break him – and hasten to adopt those practices that will become the habits that can help him achieve the success he desires.”
Good habits help propel you along the road to success – bad ones the road to failure.
Good habits are daily activities which although easy to do are also easy no to do – be aware of your smallest actions as they all have an impact for either good or not so good.
Another short quotation from “The Common Denominator of Success” by a Mr Gray is that “Successful people make a habit of doing things that unsuccessful people don’t like to do”
There is nothing stronger than a habit – have you a copy of my 21 Good Habits and if so do you listen to it daily? – They may seem insignificant but everything in this life counts.
1. Staying home sick when you’re not ill.
Plenty of high school students make a habit of staying home when they’re not actually sick. However, most college classes meet once or twice a week, and missing one session can drastically affect your grade. To avoid falling behind in college, only take time off when you’re really not feeling well.
2. Phone play during classes and study time.
Checking text messages or e-mails during class is a major distraction that can prevent you from learning key concepts. Keep your phone off in the college classroom – you’ll be more focused, and you’ll avoid distracting your peers and professors as well.
3. Giving lame excuses.
Maybe you gave lame excuses for not turning in your homework or finishing a class project on time. While high school teachers may have given you the benefit of the doubt, broken printers and essay-hungry dogs won’t work in college. You’ll be treated like a responsible adult, which means adhering to due dates no matter what.
4. Doodling instead of taking notes.
Get in the habit of paying attention during class. Doodling instead of note-taking is a surefire way to fall behind and miss important class concepts.
5. Paying more attention to your friends than your instructors.
You may be tempted to socialize with friends during class, but doing so means missing valuable information during your professor’s lecture. Wait until after class to talk to your friends.
6. Being the class clown.
The class clown routine is usually frowned upon in college. Many of your peers will view comedic behavior as an unwelcome distraction, particularly those paying out of their own pockets for a degree.
7. Not bothering to study for tests.
Cramming for a test or not studying at all will affect you negatively. Even if you feel pretty confident with certain class material, it’s always wise to review your notes before taking a test.
8. Turning in messy assignments.
Have you ever turned in a paper with crumbled edges or even illegible writing, making it almost impossible for your teacher to read? Maybe you got away with it in high school, but college professors won’t accept messy work no matter the excuse.
9. Relying on your teacher for pens and paper.
You may have relied on your high school teachers to provide you with paper or pens, but that’s not the case in college. Professors don’t have permanent classrooms, and they regularly move from room to room on a daily basis. Make sure your writing supplies are always close at hand.
10. Expecting teachers to remind you about missed homework assignments.
Did your high school teachers remind you about missing assignments after an absence? It doesn’t work that way in college. It’s your responsibility to ask professors what you missed. You may want to e-mail instructors when you’re absent to request lecture notes.
11. Only skimming your readings.
It’s important to prepare for college classes by reading the assigned text thoroughly – skimming won’t cut it. You’ll have a tough time participating in class if you haven’t highlighted important concepts or jotted down key passages.
12. Going to class late.
Punctuality is important in college – some professors won’t even allow you into the classroom if you’re late. Get in the habit of showing up early or on time.
13. Leaving books at home because you don’t feel like carrying them.
You’ll need to bring all required materials to college classes. Professors typically don’t have spare textbooks to lend, so avoid leaving yours in the dorm.
14. Having your parents be your alarm clock.
Maybe mom or dad was your personal alarm clock every morning, but that won’t fly in college. Get an alarm clock and take responsibility for yourself.
15. Being unorganized.
High school could have been a structured haven for you with the help of teachers. However, you won’t have teachers or parents to help you stay organized in college; you’ll need to get organized on your own.
16. Being the quiet student in the back of the classroom.
Participating in class is a great way to engage with peers and professors alike. In fact, some teachers take class participation into account when determining final grades. Don’t be afraid to raise your hand and speak up – your GPA might depend on it.
17. Don’t save homework for the last minute.
Did you ever start writing a essay the night before it was due? Procrastinating only ends up hurting the quality of your work and, in turn, your grades. Learn how to manage your time wisely.
18. Thinking that you’re the coolest kid in school.
The student population in college is much larger than in high school, and the cool or popular crowd is virtually nonexistent. Recognize that you’re in a bigger pond now, and be open to meeting new people.
19. Worrying about your social life more than your academics.
Hanging out with friends may have been your priority in high school, rather than your academics. However, college is a serious academic commitment, and it’s important to make sure your studies always come first.
20. Being a follower.
Don’t follow, lead! College is the perfect place to discover who you are and take charge of your life, rather than follow in your peers’ footsteps.
If you’re a high school senior getting ready to start your freshman year of college, here are 50 things you need to know.
Whether you bite your nails, smoke, leave fingernail clippings on the bathroom sink, or leave the gas on near empty after using your spouse’s car-we all have shortcomings and things that we wish to change about ourselves.
We know that deep inside of you, there is a person that wants to stop practicing these habits. Right? But how do to it?
We recommend 3 simple and easy steps:
1. Observe When You Do Them
Is it when you’re stressed, or bored, or hungry? Figuring out when and why you bite your nails or why you keep forgetting to refill the car is the most essential part of understanding your habits. You may be practicing them under certain circumstances or feelings you are attached to, so if you figure these things out you are on the good way towards stopping.
2. Note When You Do Them
Writing can always make things sink in more clearly, and it also helps in establishing a baseline of emotions and can pinpoint what’s going through your head whenever you practice any of these habits. You should keep a “habit log” for at least a week to keep record of when you do them, as recognizing your habits and being one step closer to controlling them.
3. Use Signage
If you have a bad habit of leaving tea bags on the kitchen counter, try placing a “NO Teabags Allowed” signs on the kitchen cabinet-or maybe your spouse will even do this for you. Or if you always leave the garage door open (something I use to do) post up a sign on the inside of the entrance door by the open/close button entitled, “Close Garage Now”, so that before you exit you’ll have a quick reminder not to encourage thieves to steal your car and garage supplies. 🙂
Don’t let your habits define you. Start having full control over what you do-and how you do it!
We all have at least one habit that we want to get rid of. Whether this habit is procrastinating or waking up late, smoking or excessive drinking, negative thinking or worrying our lives become badly impacted by it.
Research has shown that any attempt to not think of something by force always yields the opposite result. This means that trying to not think about your bad habit will always force you to think about it.
Research has also shown that will power on its own can never change a habit because even if the person managed to kick the habit it eventually returns back few weeks, months or even years later.
So how can a person kick a bad habit forever?
Here are some effective ways to end bad habits completely:
1)Understand the intentions behind the bad habit: usually there is a strong psychological cause behind the bad habit that is unknown to us. For example lots of people who smoke do it when they feel stressed because smoking allows them to feel in control as they keep doing the same gestures they are used to do. Lots of people become shopping addicts because they want to escape from a bad mood and not because they want to buy something. Many people procrastinate because they fear to test their self worth as a result from believing that they are not worthy.
2)Eliminate the root cause and not the bad habit itself: Because most people work on the bad habit itself the psychological need pushes it back in their lives. The right way to end a bad habit is to deal with that psychological need and fix it. Once you are done with it you change have to quit the bad habit once and it won’t return back.
3)Replace the bad habit with a good one: Sometimes the psychological need behind the habit is so important to the extent that a new good habit must be developed in order for the person to get rid of the bad one. Bad habits are usually developed to fill certain gaps in the person’s psyche and unless the person fills that gap the bad habit won’t leave him. if for example you always like to eat in front of the television then you can replace the unhealthy food with fruits.
4)Use negative motivation: Sometimes a habit can be easily broken as soon as a person finds a strong reason to do it. As soon as you start educating yourself about the consequences of a bad habit you will become more motivated to quit it. Notice that the consequences might be directly against your goals in order to motivate you. For example if you don’t care about health that much then health warnings on cigarette packs wont motivate you at all but if you were obsessed about your looks then read somewhere the smoking causes acne you will become motivated to stop
5)Choose a bad day and start: People usually make the mistake of choosing a great day to quit the habit on. The problem with this approach is that as soon as the bad day arrives they return back to their bad habit to feel good. Start on the bad day so that make sure that even under extreme conditions you won’t get back to your bad habit
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Here’s an online Behavior Wizard that will help you pinpoint a habit you would like to stop, increase or decrease with a series of steps. Read on for more.
Blogs have been abuzz about the power of ‘behavior change’ and Dr. BJ Fogg, the director of Stanford University’s Persuasive Technology Lab behavior grid, which is used to alter habits for health, commerce and the environment.
Fogg, a Fortune magazine “2008 new guru you should know,” designed the online Behavior Wizard to help you pinpoint a habit you would like to stop, increase or decrease with a series of steps (Dot – one time, Span – specific duration of time, Path – now and forever) to achieve your goal by “removing the trigger, reducing the motivation and the availability.”
See the “Eating Behavior Mapped into the Behavior Grid”: http://www.behaviorgrid.org/ and check out the Behavior Wizard if you want to address a specific behavior like stop eating sugar or eat more greens, less meat: http://www.behaviorwizard.org/wp/
The US National Institute of Health (NIH) also offers a “guide to behavior change” for maintaining weight loss and notes “successful weight managers are those who select two or three goals at a time that are manageable.”
Keep in mind “useful goals should be (1) specific; (2) attainable (doable); and (3) forgiving (less than perfect).”
Get rid of the habit of eating sweets frequently. The harm brought by sweets is no less than smoking and drinking. They think sweets will not only affect their weight, but also seriously affect their health. To say that more sweets will lead to a series of problems in the body, so from now on, try to reduce the sweetness in the food.
Change the habit of sedentary and immobile life. From now on, take 30 minutes as the interval, stand up and move more. If there is no time, you can drink more water and remind yourself to stand up more. This way of life can keep your body in an active state, so that the time will last, and your body will become better.
Keep enough sleep time. This sufficient time requirement can be based on your own physical state. Do not deliberately learn from other people’s sleep time, because everyone’s biological clock is not the same, and their environment is different. Only you really feel that you have a good rest, other things are not particularly important.
Keep a correct standing and walking posture. If you stoop to stand or walk for a long time, the important organs of your body will be very harmful. Therefore, stooping will cause too much pressure on your cervical vertebra. In the long run, it will cause problems in your body image. This habit must be corrected quickly. Of course, it is slowly developed in the face of all these small details of life.
Keep physical and mental health. Physical health is one aspect. On the other hand, mental health is also very important in today’s era. If you can’t make it bigger, you will also be very troubled by your life and work. When you are in a state of agitation, you need to learn to defuse, live a healthy life, be positive and embrace a better life.
Everyone has a bad habit. Some might seem harmless or quirky, but others can really get in the way of your health and wellbeing. Here are a few common bad habits that you should stop immediately to live a happier, healthier life:
1. Going to bed late. I get it, not everyone is a morning person. But whether you work full-time or stay home with your kids, chances are, you have to be a functioning human being before 9 a.m. Going to bed late makes getting 7 to 8 hours of quality sleep next to impossible. If you’re used to being a night owl, start gradually going to bed earlier. Start by turning off the TV or putting down your book 30 minutes earlier than usual. The more sleep you get, the healthier, happier, and more productive you’ll be!
2. Over-snacking. A healthy snack when you are hungry in-between meals is great fuel for your body. However, over-snacking can become a big problem. Eating too many snacks in-between meals can lead to weight gain and fatigue – especially if your snacks aren’t nutritious. Be sure to pre-portion out snacks (like a handful of almonds) to refrain from overeating. Ask yourself if you’re actually hungry – and not just bored – before you start snacking!
3. Complaining. It’s easy to complain, and it’s difficult to find the good in an unfavorable predicament. However, complaining won’t help the situation or your mood. Try to keep yourself in a positive mindset and find the silver lining in every negative circumstance you face. You’ll be happier, less stressed, and more enjoyable to be around!
4. Skipping breakfast. When you’re in a rush to get out the door in the morning, eating breakfast might be your last priority. However, eating a healthy breakfast benefits your body in many ways – and a cup of coffee simply doesn’t cut it! Making time for a nutritious breakfast every morning will help keep your weight in check, prevent you from over-eating at lunch, improve your metabolism, and keep you energized and productive throughout the day.
5. Hitting snooze. Hitting the snooze button is one of the worst ways to start your day. The sleep you get while “snoozing” isn’t quality sleep at all – it really makes you more tired! Snoozing can also throw off your body’s internal clock, making it difficult to get up around the same time every day. Even worse, it can make you late and cause you to stress trying to get to work on time. Try placing your alarm far away from your bed and set a higher volume. You’ll be forced to get up instead of snoozing!
6. Ignoring your financial health. Money troubles have a lot of negative side effects on your physical and mental health. Financial stress can contribute to high blood pressure, feelings of depression, insomnia, headaches, digestive problems, chronic pain, ulcers, and substance abuse. A study by Payoff PTSD-like symptoms from financial stress. If you’re having trouble managing finances or overspending, don’t feel ashamed to seek financial advice.
7. Not taking stress seriously. We often ignore stress, or pretend that nothing gets to us. But stress can be horrible for your body. Plenty of research has shown that stress contributes to high blood pressure, heart problems, weight gain or loss, sleep problems, irritability, and troubles concentrating at work. There is a lot you can do to manage stress – meditation, working out, yoga, or going to a spa. Always make time to de-stress.
8. Saying “yes” to everything. There’s no sense in being a “yes man.” Realistically, you can’t attend every meeting, volunteer for every extra shift, and take on every project – so, stop expecting
9. Checking social media constantly. There’s nothing wrong with keeping up with friends via social networking. However, when you start to get addicted to social media and find yourself refreshing your newsfeed every 15 minutes, there might be some serious consequences. This article does a great job showing the link between social media and higher levels of loneliness, envy, anxiety, depression, narcissism, and decreased social skills.
10. Being a couch potato. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s tempting to want to relax in your bed or on the couch. Yet exercise – even moderate activity like brisk walking – has been shown to help keep weight in check, reduce the risk of many life-threatening diseases, and boost overall happiness and wellbeing.
Despite what you might think, bad habits aren’t impossible to break. If you are guilty of one or more of these common bad habits, try working on breaking one at a time and replacing it with a healthy habit. It’s never too late to reverse a bad habit!
What bad habits have you kicked for a happier, healthier life?
Bad habits stop your life and keep you away from your goals. Whether your bad habit is small such as smoking, it takes effort as well as time to break the cycle.
So why do we still do them? Is there anything you can do about it? We can’t change our habits easily. We have to first replace them with other. Habits like nail biting, eating unwanted things, using excess of resources, smoking, continuing a same step, smiling too much, blinking the eyes, laughing too much, doing the works so slow may not be easy to change.
Most of the time, bad habits are simply a way of dealing with stress and free time. When you are in stress you may eat things you should not. From eating paper to nail it shows that how much tensed we are. The consumption of stones, chalks and dust is harmful.
But it should be controlled. You can learn by yourself. You can devise new ways to replace the bad habits. The ways can be eating vegetables, more water, reading books, going gym, small walk, converstion with people, cleaning of home etc. Sonmetimes the stress may lead long term diseases like thyroids and diabetes. These issues are tough to think about, if you’re serious in your schedule then you have to saty away from useless activities. Is there something different – a fear or an old belief — that is holding you back.
You should recognise the reason for your habits. All of the habits that you have right now good or bad are in your life for a reason. Not all habits benefir you. Some harm to greter extent.
You should surround yourself with the you type people. Visualize yourself succeeding. You should not change yourself at any cost. You are best as you are. You can improve yourself but should not change.
Breaking bad habits takes time and effort. Most people who end up breaking bad habits try and fail multiple times before they make it work. If you will try hard and stay doing practise your bad habits may be changed.
You should have good company of friends. You can consult to councellors if your bad habits are as dangerous as gambling and stealing. You should eat healthy and so exercise. You can listen motivational lectures from many monks and speakers. You should be devoted to your aims.