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Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

Fear of missing out? Not with these 5 tips.

Posted August 25, 2016

Fear of missing out isn’t new. “FOMO” is simply this generation’s version of the expression “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.”

But today, social media makes us increasingly more aware of our friends’ metaphorical grass. We’re privy to pictures of their vacation in the Bahamas, the frozen rosé they ordered at that hot new bistro, and last weekend’s barbecue on the beach.

This is FOMO—fear of missing out, which, in a first-of-its-kind study on FOMO from 2013, is defined as “a pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent.”

There are different expressions of FOMO. To find yours, ask yourself, “If I did miss out, what does that say about me?” Here are three of the most common answers:

FOMO Thought #1: “I made a bad choice.” FOMO causes anxiety by undermining confidence in your decisions. The decisions might be as small as where you went for lunch, or as big as what career or lifestyle you’re pursuing. This type of FOMO feeds the hypothetical, anxiety-provoking questions of “if only” and “what if?” Indeed, that 2013 study showed that those who experience higher levels of FOMO also reported lower levels of overall life satisfaction.

FOMO Thought #2: “They’re having fun without me.” This is essentially envy, which is a mix of inferiority and resentment. This type is closest to what the term implies: that you’ve been left out, either inadvertently or deliberately, or because you weren’t in the know, didn’t have the means of going, or couldn’t muster the courage.

FOMO Thought #3: “I’m a loser.” Or, for the extended version, “Because I wasn’t invited, didn’t know about it, couldn’t make it, etc. I’m a loser.” You get the idea. This is essentially insecurity. Remember that everyone feels this way at least sometimes. When insecurity creeps over you, you are not alone. That said, the researchers found that if an individual’s “psychological needs were deprived,” they were more likely to seek out social media and experience FOMO. What kind of psychological needs? There were three in particular: competency, making meaningful choices, and connectedness to others. The absence of any or all of those planted the seed of FOMO.

What’s the cost of FOMO, besides feeling anxious, envious, and insecure? Well, in addition to the exhaustion of constantly weighing your experiences against others’, the result of FOMO is actually missing out. Hear me out on this one. Pretend you’re at a restaurant with friends, or home relaxing on your own, but when you check your alerts and updates to learn about a party you’re not at, your mind stops enjoying and starts comparing. The result? We neglect the present. We end up devaluing and distracting ourselves from the most important social experience of the moment: the one we’re actually in. And yes, that includes enjoying some solitude.

OK, so what to do? How to put FOMO in perspective? Here are five tips to try.

Tip #1: Recognize what’s being posted and what isn’t. Remember people show their best face on social media. We tend to post about the positive aspects of our lives—vacations, accomplishments, kids doing cute things, photos in which we look particularly hot. No one posts about cleaning the litter box, having the flu, or picking up tampons on sale. Everyone does these things just as often as you—it’s just that those moments aren’t on display.

Tip #2: Accept that life has its ups and downs. Just like every job involves the equivalent of making photocopies, every life has its own daily grind. FOMO suggests you should be doing something awesome—if not all the time, then at least most of the time. But peak experiences are called “peak” because they’re the best and rarest of our experiences. If life was all peak experiences, they wouldn’t be special anymore.

Tip #3: Understand that you can’t do everything. The study showed that young people, and young men in particular, struggled with higher levels of FOMO. But with age and experience comes the understanding that, at any given moment, there are infinite things you could be doing. There is always more fun to be had. There is also always more work to do. But until we can clone ourselves Dolly the Sheep-style, we can only do one thing at a time. I’ll let you decide if you want to love the one you’re with, but you can fight FOMO by loving what you’re doing.

Tip #4: Look out for FOMO being used against you. Fear of missing out isn’t just limited to social media. Advertisers often make use of FOMO to manipulate consumers. For instance, look out for countdown timers with online shopping, promos that offer “exclusive access,” or ads that promise you won’t miss out.

Tip #5: Live your life uninterrupted. Social media is, of course, a way to stay socially connected. But when we try to stay “connected” by withdrawing from the activity we’re actually doing and ignoring the people we’re actually with, it becomes an interruption. Our brains aren’t wired for multitasking, so when we jump back and forth between the present moment and status updates, we break our lives into a series of skips and interruptions—again, actually missing out.

A version of this piece originally appeared on Quick and Dirty Tips.

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

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Happiness requires pursuing interesting experiences while acknowledging limits

Posted December 7, 2020

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

The ancient philosopher Epicurus rightly noted that living a happy life is a matter of enjoying an interesting variety of pleasurable experiences. Without variety, we might end up feeling boredom, an unpleasant state which subtracts from the overall pleasure of our lives.

In the digital age, we rely on technology such as social media in trying to build for ourselves interesting and varied lives. But if we do not use the technology wisely, we can end up becoming excessively attached to interesting experiences, and trapped in a cycle of social media FOMO, a sign of deeper unhappiness.

Social networking sites like Facebook are designed and promoted to make us believe enthusiastically that they are able to open up new experiences for us. We can have glimpses into the lives of people who are far away, connections with others around the world who we would otherwise never meet, and opportunities to plan real-life events with a few clicks. There are constant notifications, status updates, and incentives to check-in to find out what is new.

But the technology invites us to take the pursuit of interesting experiences to an extreme and to deceive ourselves into believing that it is possible and good to pursue such experiences without limit.

Such deception does not come without a cost. We can become too attached to interesting experiences, turning into the sorts of people Kierkegaard described as “aesthetes” – people who organize their lives around the principle that “boredom is the root of evil; it is that which must be held off.”

If we become too much like this, we face pain and distress that takes away from our ability to experience long-term happiness. Epicurus knew that we must not allow the natural desires we follow in our pursuit of happiness to take on an addictive quality, which only opens us up to painful cravings.

To lead a life that is varied and interesting in a way that is likely to contribute to our happiness, we must do so while acknowledging that there are limits to what we can enjoy.

It can be quite frightening and disappointing to think that there are limits to enjoyment in life. In our age, these distressing emotions emerge for many in the experience of social media FOMO. FOMO, or fear of missing out, is a fear that exciting or interesting events are happening somewhere else and that we are not able to take part.

People who experience high levels of FOMO have been found to be more likely to give in to urges to compose and check text messages while driving, as well as to use Facebook more often directly after waking, while going to sleep, and during meals.

When it comes to lasting happiness, it is best not to give in to FOMO, but rather to deal with the cycle of desires that fuel it. Hard as it is, we are better off working towards facing the fearful reality that we cannot experience everything we might like than to get caught in a cycle of checking behaviors that only sustain distress.

If we have become used to interweaving social media use into our attempts at living interesting lives, we must acknowledge that it is not easy to change our approach. But change is almost always worthwhile in the long run.

The pervasiveness of FOMO in our digital age is a sign that there is something wrong with the way we are pursuing happiness and that we are not as happy as we might be. It should warn us that, in our keenness to use digital technology to try to make ourselves happier, we may unintentionally be bringing on exactly the opposite result.

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

Do you feel like your social media feeds are not feeding your soul?

A group of your college buddies are getting together before the year is over but a previous engagement prevents you from making it. A casual scroll through Instagram shows photos of your friends laughing over drinks and late-night snacks while you’ve missed out on all the action. Hashtags of #friendwhoarefamily #blessed #reunion spark unfamiliar reactions within, and suddenly sadness, anxiety, and regret take over. Fear not–these emotions are the result of a classic case of FOMO. We’ve heard FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) referenced in humorous ways on social media. But is FOMO real? Do people experience FOMO or is it just another media-derived concept that we’ve taken upon ourselves to play out?

The idea of FOMO, or social anxiety, has been around since socialization began, only there wasn’t a always name for it. With the explosion of social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, Snap Chat and Twitter, smartphone obsession and the rising popularity of apps, the fear of missing someone or something has turned into actualized anxiety of not living up to our full potential. One minute, life appears glorious. The next, we see a post about a friend’s recent engagement or baby news and we look for reasons to discredit and dislike ourselves, sending us into a tailspin. FOMO brings our insecurities front and center, making us second-guess our decisions. Carefully following other people’s social media activity nearly dictates what we feel about our own lives.

Social media, originally meant to serve as portal of communication for people, has evolved into a way of life. Live updates on peers, friends, family or favorite celebrities don’t leave much to the imagination. In an interview with The New York Times, Instagram chief executive Kevin Systrom said of Twiiter, “We aren’t used to seeing the world as it happens. […] We as humans can only process so much data.” FOMO occurs because we want to feel connected in an age of physical disconnection. It fuels our desire to want more; more success, more time with friends and family, more reasons to write on someone’s wall or tweet at them. Systrom agreed that social media is addictive, describing ‘liking’ a photo as being “rewarded and keeps you coming back.”

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

When we’re not there in the physical we feel a missed connection, a lost opportunity at social interaction and we imagine what it could have been if we were there. So how can we control the FOMO beast within? Here are four practical tips on how to handle a case of FOMO:

1. Put Down the Phone

The #1 rule to curing FOMO is to control your online intake. It’s hard to imagine life before Facebook, let alone cellphones. Our mobiles devices have become an extension of our body. Completely unplugging isn’t the answer but minor adjustments make all the difference. Make it a point to turn over your phone at least 3-4 times a day and walk away. Keep your hands busy with other activities like cooking, walking the dog or folding laundry. It may not be easy, but separating yourself from your phone is a necessary step to overcoming FOMO. Look up from that phone, there’s a whole world to experience

2. Measure your happiness

Remembering our accomplishing and goals are more important than caring about who posted what online. FOMO creeps up when we are at a weak point or feeling low. Find three things you’ve done or would like to do that make you happy. Measure your happiness for yourself and for other people. If you’re not at your happiest, ask yourself, what makes you unhappy for others? What can you do to become happier? Staying positive is important for a sound mind and body.

3. Focus on Yourself

The benefits of social media are plenty but there is an obvious downside to staying connected—we care too much about what other people are doing. When you find yourself obsessing over the lives of everyone else, stop what you’re doing and ask yourself whether what you are thinking about affects your life. Re-channel this energy to focus on your daily intentions.

4. Reduce Stress

When we do what we love, things that make us laugh and burst with enthusiasm, the body automatically creates endorphins. Stay physically active. Join a yoga class or running group, meditate, read. Anything that will steer your mind away from the happenings of your Facebook news feed will reduce your social (media) anxiety and create a happier you. Untagged photos be damned, go out there and get some me-time.

Photo: Ed Yourdon via Flickr; merri via Flickr

All that Instagram stalking may actually lead to some good.

You know the feeling. It’s exhausting, it’s stressful, it’s obsessive: it’s FOMO. The fear of missing out, whether it’s sparked by a social media post or an in-person interaction, it’s a recipe for a rich stew of anxiety and discontentment.

Is FOMO Really So Bad

Here’s the big problem with FOMO. “You’re focused on what others are doing, rather than being fully present where you are,” explains Cathy Sullivan-Windt, Ph.D, a licensed psychologist & founder of the New Connections Counseling Center.

So why is that so bad? Constantly distracting yourself with what others are doing sets up the groundwork for social comparison. And the biggest issue with this is that you’re comparing your reality with someone else’s curated depiction of reality. That skews your expectations for how things should be and can undermine your self-confidence, satisfaction, and enjoyment.

And to make matters worse, your brain rewards you for engaging in social comparison when you come out on top in the situation. There’s also an almost addictive element where you can’t stop yourself from compulsively checking your phone to see what everyone else is up to.

The Upside To FOMO

But there are times when FOMO can be a good thing, in tiny doses and specific situations. “I’ve seen FOMO motivate people to step out of their comfort zone,” says Kellie Zeigler, one of just 1,500 Certified Applied Positive Psychology Practitioners in the world.

Zeigler gives the example of trying to decide whether you want to attend a friend of a friend’s birthday party after a long day at work. “You know that you’d have a good time if you went but right now all you can think about is the effort it takes to get there. A little bit of FOMO might help motivate you to go. You’ll go, have a great time, and be re-energized by the interactions you have there.”

Lauren Cook, Doctoral Candidate of Clinical Psychology at Pepperdine University agrees. “FOMO can pull us near one another. When we want to socially isolate, it can be the reminder that connection is really key for our health,” she says.

According to a study by Julianne Holt-Lunstad, PhD, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Brigham Young University, a lack of social connection increases health risks as much as smoking 15 cigarettes a day or having alcohol use disorder.

Another advantage of FOMO, “when we see someone else living their #bestlife, it can give us hope that we can do the same,” Cook explains. “Watching others excel, can be a way to encourage us to reach for more.” We can use that as fuel as motivation.

The Right Amount Of FOMO

Is there a Golidlocks scenario with FOMO? The quick answer: it depends. There’s the good kind of FOMO and the bad kind of FOMO and it’s how you view it that makes it one or the other. So, if the idea of upping your dosage of other peoples’ experiences makes you shudder, don’t worry that you’re missing out on the fear or missing out.

“If FOMO helps you motivate to reach your goals, awesome. If it freaks you out and paralyzes you in indecision, let it go, get clear on what you want, and move forward with a focus on what brings you joy rather than what you’re afraid of not having,” says Zeigler.

And sometimes, unfortunately, FOMO isn’t a choice. We normally use the term trivially to describe social anxiety or exclusion, but it’s related to other kinds of fear as well, including a powerful drive to avoid regret.

Seeing that you’re missing one party probably won’t make a huge difference to the trajectory of your social life, but missing the next four or five or ten? Those friends are likely to stop calling, then all those RSVP no’s might be a decision you regret.

“When you look at your life in 5 or 10 years into the future, are you afraid it looks the same as it does right now?” says Zeigler. “For some people, that’s a yes. If your FOMO is for a better life, for being healthy, or having meaningful work, that feeling can help motivate you to make the changes you want to see in your life.”

Social comparison: Neuroreport (2014). Brain mechanisms of social comparison and their influence on the reward system.”

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Drugs and Alcohol Can Hijack Your Brain

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

People with addiction lose control over their actions. They crave and seek out drugs, alcohol, or other substances no matter what the cost—even at the risk of damaging friendships, hurting family, or losing jobs. What is it about addiction that makes people behave in such destructive ways? And why is it so hard to quit?

NIH-funded scientists are working to learn more about the biology of addiction. They’ve shown that addiction is a long-lasting and complex brain disease, and that current treatments can help people control their addictions. But even for those who’ve successfully quit, there’s always a risk of the addiction returning, which is called relapse.

The biological basis of addiction helps to explain why people need much more than good intentions or willpower to break their addictions.

“A common misperception is that addiction is a choice or moral problem, and all you have to do is stop. But nothing could be further from the truth,” says Dr. George Koob, director of NIH’s National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. “The brain actually changes with addiction, and it takes a good deal of work to get it back to its normal state. The more drugs or alcohol you’ve taken, the more disruptive it is to the brain.”

Researchers have found that much of addiction’s power lies in its ability to hijack and even destroy key brain regions that are meant to help us survive.

A healthy brain rewards healthy behaviors—like exercising, eating, or bonding with loved ones. It does this by switching on brain circuits that make you feel wonderful, which then motivates you to repeat those behaviors. In contrast, when you’re in danger, a healthy brain pushes your body to react quickly with fear or alarm, so you’ll get out of harm’s way. If you’re tempted by something questionable—like eating ice cream before dinner or buying things you can’t afford—the front regions of your brain can help you decide if the consequences are worth the actions.

But when you’re becoming addicted to a substance, that normal hardwiring of helpful brain processes can begin to work against you. Drugs or alcohol can hijack the pleasure/reward circuits in your brain and hook you into wanting more and more. Addiction can also send your emotional danger-sensing circuits into overdrive, making you feel anxious and stressed when you’re not using the drugs or alcohol. At this stage, people often use drugs or alcohol to keep from feeling bad rather than for their pleasurable effects.

To add to that, repeated use of drugs can damage the essential decision-making center at the front of the brain. This area, known as the prefrontal cortex, is the very region that should help you recognize the harms of using addictive substances.

“Brain imaging studies of people addicted to drugs or alcohol show decreased activity in this frontal cortex,” says Dr. Nora Volkow, director of NIH’s National Institute on Drug Abuse. “When the frontal cortex isn’t working properly, people can’t make the decision to stop taking the drug—even if they realize the price of taking that drug may be extremely high, and they might lose custody of their children or end up in jail. Nonetheless, they take it.”

Scientists don’t yet understand why some people become addicted while others don’t. Addiction tends to run in families, and certain types of genes Stretches of DNA, a substance you inherit from your parents, that define characteristics such as your risk for certain disorders, such as addiction. have been linked to different forms of addiction. But not all members of an affected family are necessarily prone to addiction. “As with heart disease or diabetes, there’s no one gene that makes you vulnerable,” Koob says.

Other factors can also raise your chances of addiction. “Growing up with an alcoholic; being abused as a child; being exposed to extraordinary stress—all of these social factors can contribute to the risk for alcohol addiction or drug abuse,” Koob says. “And with drugs or underage drinking, the earlier you start, the greater the likelihood of having alcohol use disorder or addiction later in life.”

Teens are especially vulnerable to possible addiction because their brains are not yet fully developed—particularly the frontal regions that help with impulse control and assessing risk. Pleasure circuits in adolescent brains also operate in overdrive, making drug and alcohol use even more rewarding and enticing.

NIH is launching a new nationwide study to learn more about how teen brains are altered by alcohol, tobacco, marijuana, and other drugs. Researchers will use brain scans and other tools to assess more than 10,000 youth over a 10-year span. The study will track the links between substance use and brain changes, academic achievement, IQ, thinking skills, and mental health over time.

Although there’s much still to learn, we do know that prevention is critical to reducing the harms of addiction. “Childhood and adolescence are times when parents can get involved and teach their kids about a healthy lifestyle and activities that can protect against the use of drugs,” Volkow says. “Physical activity is important, as well as getting engaged in work, science projects, art, or social networks that do not promote use of drugs.”

To treat addiction, scientists have identified several medications and behavioral therapies—especially when used in combination—that can help people stop using specific substances and prevent relapse. Unfortunately, no medications are yet available to treat addiction to stimulants such as cocaine or methamphetamine, but behavioral therapies can help.

“Treatment depends to a large extent on the severity of addiction and the individual person,” Koob adds. “Some people can stop cigarette smoking and alcohol use disorders on their own. More severe cases might require months or even years of treatment and follow-up, with real efforts by the individual and usually complete abstinence from the substance afterward.”

NIH-funded researchers are also evaluating experimental therapies that might enhance the effectiveness of established treatments. Mindfulness meditation and magnetic stimulation of the brain are being assessed for their ability to strengthen brain circuits that have been harmed by addiction. Scientists are also examining the potential of vaccines against nicotine, cocaine, and other drugs, which might prevent the drug from entering the brain.

“Addiction is a devastating disease, with a relatively high death rate and serious social consequences,” Volkow says. “We’re exploring multiple strategies so individuals will eventually have more treatment options, which will increase their chances of success to help them stop taking the drug.”

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

Many people struggle with FOMO, aka the “Fear of Missing Out.” This term refers to the feelings of loneliness and emptiness people sometimes feel when they’re worried their friends and loved ones are somehow happier or enjoying life without them. Everyone struggles with feelings of loneliness and even FOMO from time to time, but it seems to rear its ugly head in our darkest moments. When you’re already discouraged, struggling, or focusing on yourself for long periods of time, FOMO can make you feel even worse. For this reason, FOMO can be particularly stressful for those recovering from addiction. Here are some ways to cope and, hopefully, overcome FOMO.

1. Exercise

A lot of people are sick of hearing the benefits of exercise, but it really couldn’t be better for your mind and your body. Besides all the obvious benefits like weight loss, cardiovascular health, etc., exercise helps keep your brain functioning at its best. In fact, exercise is proven to boost feelings of calmness and reduce depression and anxiety (both of which contribute to FOMO).

If you’re not already exercising regularly, consider adding a daily job or yoga session to help boost those endorphins and increase your energy. What do you have to lose?

2. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness isn’t exactly the same as meditation, but they do usually go hand-in-hand. Mindfulness is the art of staying present in each and every moment. Instead of focusing on the past or the future, people who practice mindfulness are simply aware and grateful for the moment that is currently happening.

It’s hard to succumb to FOMO when you’re focused on the present. Instead of wondering what other people are doing, you’re appreciative of your own life and actions.

Meditation can certainly help people learn to develop mindfulness, but that’s not the only way to encourage the skill. Ideally, mindfulness becomes part of every action, every day. You can even learn to watch TV mindfully, just by focusing on your environment and letting go of all extraneous thoughts.

3. Keep a Gratitude Journal.

Journaling is an age-old custom that still benefits many people today. It’s one of the best ways to pour your thoughts out without worrying about other people’s judgment or condemnation.

There are many different types of journals that can help FOMO, but a gratitude journal seems to be the most beneficial. Each day, write down at least five things that make you grateful. Really focus on these things, and try not to use the same five things every day.

If you’re having a particularly difficult day, look back on past journal entries to help you remember better times. Many times, FOMO can make you feel like you’ll never be content again when it’s really just a temporary feeling that will pass quickly.

How We Can Help

The Meadows Texas focuses on treating addiction by offering opportunities to help focus the mind. Because addiction often begins with feelings of depression or anxiety, we include meditation, yoga, and other treatments along with our traditional treatment options. We also take an individualized approach to recovery with therapists ready to help talk through any issues you may face, including FOMO.

Our goal is to help you through addiction recovery with tools and techniques to help you stay sober no matter what life may throw your way in the future.

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

FOMO: Ways to Help Teens Overcome their Social Media Addiction

FOMO (or “Fear of Missing Out”). Social media addiction. All of human knowledge at a user’s fingertips. Today’s world is very different from the world of even twenty years ago. All of a sudden, new technology has created opportunities and turned everyday routine on its head. However, these advances did not occur without side effects: new pitfalls and dangers that would have seemed ridiculous not too long ago. In 2017, these hazards are as real as ever and more damaging than many parents realize.

For many parents, it is difficult to imagine the sheer impact that social media addiction can have on a child’s life – largely due to the fact that in most parents’ childhoods these realities simply did not exist. Consequently, many adults dismiss the true impact of social media addiction as a misnomer: after all, addiction can be to a substance, not a screen! Unfortunately, this mentality can severely hinder a child’s well-being .

Social media addiction is an addiction like any other. In fact, in many ways, it is even more dangerous, since it can be difficult to diagnose and define. Often, the true extent of being addicted to electronics or social media isn’t evident until access is removed. Once a person cannot log in to check social media, they begin experiencing very real, physical symptoms of withdrawal. The situation is exacerbated by the presence of another mental illness or social disorder. For example, a child who has trouble connecting with peers may use computers as a form of escape; then, before they have a chance to notice the problem, they become addicted.

A similar idea can be seen in FOMO. With so many aspects of social communication now happening online in real time, a person may find themselves under constant pressure to monitor their social media around the clock in the fear that they will “miss out” on something important while they are away. The problem is extremely widespread. As of 2016, 24% of teenagers describe themselves as being online “almost constantly”.

Helping a teenager with social media addiction begins at home. Tempting as it may seem for parents, forcing a teenager to quit “cold turkey” often causes more harm than good. Instead, curbing the habit and replacing it with healthy, real-life patterns (such as sports) can guide a child back onto a path toward wellness.

If your child is suffering from social media addiction, it may be time to consider professional help. Elevations helps teens of all genders 13-18 overcome their struggles and return to a healthy path. For more information, call (855) 290-9681 today!

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

Yes … the fear of missing out (or FOMO as it’s commonly referred to) is not just something you hear about in a humorous way but, believe it or not, it’s actually a genuine fear and anxiety!

FOMO is one of our newer phobias. That said it was actually first identified back in 1996 but only recently made popular in respect of the new and increasing addiction to social media.

It’s all about the perception that others (friends and family) are having more fun than you, are invited to places that you aren’t and generally the belief that you’re not being included. As we said, social media takes much of the responsibility for this fear. Everyone’s lifes seem to be open to public viewing 24hours a day, 7 days a week. And they all seem so much better and more exciting than ours!

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

Beat Your Fear Of Missing Out

Fear of missing out may sound, when you put it like that, pretty trivial but to an increasing number of people it really is a problem.

Everyone else’s life sounds so exciting and so much better than yours. Especially as in today’s linked up world it’s so easy to see exactly what people are doing, almost in real time, via social media. Monitoring friends and family can become an addictive obsession to the point where this alone can really impact on life. You can see exactly what their doing, where they are, who they’re with and in real time too. Everything is visible! To some this can be really positive and fun but to others the opposite may be true. They feel left out and as though they’re missing out.

Many will discover that so called friends are out enjoying themselves at an event that you have not been invited to. Perhaps they’re all in private conversation on social media. Maybe you’ll find out about parties etc but not know if you’ve been invited. You realise that everyone else is having an amazing time at an invite you turned down thinking it sounded boring. These are just a few examples of FOMO.

For that reason anyone suffering from a fear of missing out wants to be at all the social activities they are absent from. By “activities” we’re not just talking about physical events but even those online conversations.

Because of this fear anyone affected by FOMO will accept all invitations. They simply must be part of everything and that really can create so many problems.

Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

Is FOMO Really A Problem?

I think most of us are affected by a fear of missing out these days but to most of us it’s not an issue but to some it really is. When this fear takes over your time and emotional space it can’t help but affect happiness. You’ll find it hard to live in and enjoy the present as you’re too occupied with what others are doing right now. Instead you’ll feel jealous of others and, over time, you’ll start to feel insecure and that there’s something wrong with you and, as a result, your self-esteem will become very low and depression will set in.

So, fear of missing out in itself may not be too serious. However, for some it marks the onset of social anxiety disorder which could be life changing. This especially applies to younger generations. That’s why if you feel that your fear of missing out is becoming an issue you really should take action.

Overcome Your Fear Of Missing Out

Treatment options are along the same lines as any other phobia with the most common options being cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), neuro-linguistic programing (NLP) or hypnotherapy. These options are usually in the form of a series of face to face therapy sessions with a trained professional.

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Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

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    August 19, 2020 10:17 pm
    August 19, 2020 10:17 pm

FOMO stands for fear of missing out. Fomo is an emotional feeling towards self that you are not performing great and going down in life. But the truth is that there is no such thing are exists in the world. It is only your thoughts that you are making. Now we know that it is only an innovation of your mind, then we need to think about why we are doing this? And what is happening with us?


Why fomo is addictive and how to overcome it

Fear of missing out. The name contains everything. When we are eagerly want anything but for some reason, it is not coming to you, that time you are feeling such anxiety. But there are other reasons like our thought process makes this anxiety stronger. And we need to immediately stop this thought process in our minds. Here we are discussing how these thoughts come?

Top 3 Reasons for FOMO. (Fear of Missing Out)

Comparing with Others.

One of the big reasons for FOMO is comparing yourself with others like friends and colleagues. For example, if our friends buy a new house, we instantly start comparing it with us. But it goes dangerous when this thought process comes in a continuous loop. And the not only house, there are many things that we always compare with others, but you need to understand that you are consistently focusing on what others are doing rather than focusing on yourself. We need to stop this thought process first because it contributes a big part to FOMO.

Social Media.

Social media is another major reason for FOMO. In researches, it found that using social media may lead to stress, depression, and anxiety. On social media, especially in video websites, we are continually searching for some topics, but if we cannot find such information, it may also cause you FOMO.

Also, for community websites where we and our friend’s drops post daily may strengthen your feeling that you are not doing great. and your mobile notification remembering you these things from time to time. [1]


Loneliness may tend to put into FOMO. If your plans are not working properly, and you are away from your close ones, it may cause anxiety and stress. Fear of missing out something in your life such feeling can ruin deeply in your mind. It happens because there is no one near you to share your thoughts.

How to Deal with FOMO?

First, you have to fix one thing in your mind that FOMO is not a big issue like other diseases. It can easily overcome by yourself or counseling. Every person is going through such things in their life or went through. You are not alone.

The best answer to how to deal with FOMO is by understanding your thought process. Negative thoughts may worsen your anxiety, depression, and FOMO. By keeping your mind cool and positive, you can easily overcome FOMO.

Rather than spending time on social media, playing with kids or pets may feel joy in your life; it also helps you minimize stress levels and distract from negative thoughts.

5 Great Ways to Overcome FOMO.

Stop Comparing.

The biggest reason for FOMO is to compare yourself with others. Most of the people always doing a comparison with others and spoil their own lives. So without comparing others, You need to focus on your goal and steadily go forward to achieve it. The pace is not important to achieve goals. On the opposite, doing smart and quality work can always achieve the target before times.

Take Action.

Fear of missing out something like life goals and whatever else comes to reality when you stop doing any action towards goals. By drawing a proper map to achieve your target, you can easily find several ways.

Some people only think about their goal and do research continuously and not taking any actions. Rather than only thinking about your target and researching them, you need to step forward towards it, so success will surely come to you.

Connect with Others.

In FOMO, always people do disconnect contact with others. They don’t pick up a call, even don’t reply to call, they don’t like to meet anyone. But, by doing these things, you are not getting anything, but you are strengthening your fear by not facing anyone. By joining others, greet them on their life events, and join them in their happiness, you will reduce fear and anxiety.

Connecting with people and share your experience or problem, and you will always explore the new ways through their thinking and life experiences.

Social Media.

If you are daily active on social media for several hours, then it’s an alarming situation for you. FOMO’s feeling may worsen by continuously seeing that your friends are doing some interesting in their life or living a great life than you. If anyone is experiencing fear of missing out chronically, it may lead to addictive behavior towards social media.

So it’s strongly recommended that you cut off your social media use. And utilize your time to execute your plan and step forward towards your life goal rather than watching social media.


Meditation is the key to a stable mind. For practicing any path to overcome FOMO, you always need a calm and stable mind, then only you can do well, reduce your fear of missing out quickly.

So for that purpose, meditation is the best way to keep you calm. Many types of meditating methods are there to practice you can check out easily but by doing the simple method of closing eyes, sitting in a proper position of meditation, and focus on the point between your eyes for a minimum of half an hour.

While doing this, you try to eliminate all your thoughts in mind. By doing this, you will experience good results.