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How to Make Boys Want You

How to Make Boys Want You

Unless you swipe a bottle of love potion from Hogwarts, you can’t make someone fall for you. But there are certain little moments that make a guy think, whoa, I want this girl to be my girlfriend.

1. When you make the first move. Even though times are def changing, traditionally, guys are still expected to approach girls and ask them out on dates. That’s a lot of pressure! A casual, “Hey, wanna get ice cream later?” proves that you’re brave enough to knock down outdated gender norms and bold enough to go after what you want, which is H-O-T.

2. When you embrace the things that make you unique. No one else has your exact same freckles or the same cute gap in your teeth or the same throaty laugh — these are the things that make you unforgettable. Your confidence is hot!

3. When you bond over loving the same pizza toppings. This isn’t necessarily a sign he thinks you’re his soulmate, but it certainly doesn’t hurt.

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4. When you make soda shoot out their nose. With your hysterical sense of humor, of course. Everyone loves to laugh, and who doesn’t want to date someone who makes them laugh all the time?

5. When you nerd out about something that’s really important to you. Whether that’s the YA author you can’t get enough of or the indie band that has only a couple hundred views on YouTube, your passion makes you irresistible. Those quirks transform you from just another girl. to the girl, the dream girl who will totally capture his heart.

6. When you can be silly in front of your crush without fearing his judgment. All those Snapchat selfies where you pull weirdo faces on purpose = you saying, “Hey, I’m cool enough to be myself, no matter what.” And confidence is sexy. Plus, it gives him permission to be himself without fear of judgment. Bonus points if you dance like this:

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7. When you aren’t afraid to flirt. Whether it’s complimenting the way that t-shirt makes his blue eyes pop or greeting him with a flirty hug instead of a wave, guys love girls who are bold enough to flaunt their feelings.

8. When their dog loves you. Fluffy’s approval means the world to him. So, get on Fluffy’s good side with lots of head scratches and games of fetch.

9. When you offer to split the bill. Sure, he might like this move because it saves him a few bucks, but more importantly, it means that you like him for him, not the free food.

10. When you speak up in class. Voicing your knowledge and your opinions in class (or any other time!) proves you have a lot going on upstairs, and that you’re not afraid to flaunt it. Hey, it worked for Hermione.

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11. When you get really animated while telling a story. Maybe you act out all the specific voices or do an interpretive dance to get your point across or whatever. Bottom line, you aren’t afraid to be you, in all your natural weirdness and excitement. It’s adorable.

12. When you remember the name of his favorite band. Or the name of the pet hamster he had in second grade, or the make and model of his dream car. When he knows you really, truly are listening and caring, it makes him see you in a different light. Everyone wants to feel important — showing him you listen and remember what he says is the most heartfelt way to accomplish that.

13. When you disagree with him. It’s much more fun and interesting to hang out with someone who challenges you rather than just agrees with everything you say. When you take a stand and hold true to your beliefs, he gets to see how passionate you really are and that you aren’t afraid to stand up for your beliefs. So, go ahead. Defend Mean Girls as the funniest movie of all time, even if you know he thinks it’s actually Superbad.

14. When you laugh at yourself. It’s much more fun to hang around someone who has a great sense of humor and doesn’t take themselves too seriously than someone who is so worried about how they look that they’re too afraid to be themselves.

15. When you can beat him at Call of Duty. He’ll never see it coming. and he’ll never be able to forget it, either.

You know what I’m talking about. All that smiling, flirting and playing hard to get – these are all our smart little ways to show them just how much we want to be conquered. Try and add these simple things to your game and you’ll get him to fall for you in a second!

1. Be Positive

What ever you do, do it with a smile! It really is the most important ‘accessory’ you can wear! And it will help you more than anything else you put on yourself to make him notice you. Just smile, try to look approachable and warm and he will notice. Everyone loves a happy-go-lucky person. And a smile makes any face look more attractive! So, whatever you do, don’t forget your smile!

2. Make Eye Contact

If you look to the floor when he comes around he’ll see you as this nervous, confused and shy little girl. You don’t want that! If you are flirting and trying to pull him in – he must be able to see your interest. That’s kind of the point.

So, look right in his eyes when you’re talking. If you look everywhere else but straight at him you risk him thinking he’s boring you or something. Just be confident and lock eyes with him when you get the chance. One seductive look can make the world of difference in the way he thinks about you, and that’s a fact!

3. Touch Him

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Your touch will make him more interested and open for conversation. Gently touching his arm or shoulder while you are talking is going to lead you two to a whole other level in a matter of moments. He will feel more relaxed and comfortable. Also this will communicate your interest in a subtle way, so he should be able to pick it up without feeling like you’re making an actual advance on him!

4. Be Spontaneous

Don’t think too much and make plans about how to seduce him all the time! It’s not science and you can’t make it out to be one, no matter how much you want to! You need to consider one thing – having it all planned out can make you seem fake.
Also, you can never be sure you’re going about it the right way. So what if one of your little plans flunks? And that distracts your whole game? I mean, where’s the spontaneity nowadays?

You can’t predict his behavior so don’t always go by the rules. You may be disappointed if he doesn’t respond the way you expected. Just don’t be nervous, let things go naturally and you’ll do fine!

5. Get Dressed up

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You must feel good about yourself if you want others to like you, right? So, make sure you look awesome and make sure he notices! Wear your favorite outfit and walk with pride. Also don’t be afraid to show some skin. In moderation of course! A naked shoulder or a flirty mini has been known to drive men completely insane! Keep it classy of course. You kind of want him to get just a little preview of what you’ve got! So, flaunt your best features but do it with grace.

6. Compliment Him

Tell him how nice his shirt is. Ask him if he’s been working out. Guys like compliments just as much as girls do but they don’t get them as often. So, treat him to a compliment and he’ll really appreciate it! Guys have confidence issues too and you boosting his ego might even make him fall for you! If he compliments you back, you’re golden!

7. Mind Your Body Language

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It’s sometimes even more important than what you actually say! Be playful, show you’re open for conversation and don’t give off signs of nervousness. Be flirty with your body just as much as you’re being with your words and he will not be able to resist you, trust me.

8. Let Him Know You Want Him

Make him realize you want him and not just any guy! Show him that he deserves your attention and he will feel like a king! Lots of guys are intimidated when it comes to putting themselves out there. But, if you make him feel like he’s not going to be shut down he might not be as scared to make an actual move on you!

Of course, be subtle. You don’t want him to think you’re desperate. Little signals are more than enough to make him realize that he’s special to you.

If you think you’ve got a chance with this guy don’t waste your time! Get to action! Even if you aren’t sure where he stands, these are the steps to take to make it all change!

Okay before anyone tries to say anything like, “grow up” I basically want some serious tips about how to get a male friend to start thinking of you in a sexual way. like, aside from the obvious ways of dressing sluttily or whatever.

we’ve known each other for about a year, yes i do have strong feelings for him and no i’m not sexually active.

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You are wasting your time.

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How do you know he’s not already thinking about you in a sexual way and just hasn’t acted on those thoughts? If he is a close friend I would bring him home for whatever reason & just try to initiate something by kissing first and if he goes with it then go with it if you thats what you want. If you want things in life you have to go out and get them don’t be afraid. Because trust me if you don’t make a move eventually another girl will and it will be too late. And by trying to make a move you will find out easily whether he likes you or not. If he pushes you away well then not much more to say than move on. If he goes with the kissing you can decide from there what it is you want to do whether it be kissing or just further. Good luck though.

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First of all, it would help me with my advice to you if I knew the answers to a few questions: How long have you two been friends? What is the reason you want your friend to see you in a sexual way? Do you have strong feelings for him? Are you already sexually active?

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I laughed so hard at the answers to this question.

Dressing slutty does seem to work if all you want is sex so I don’t get why you are so opposed to it, but I digress.

You can always try finding excuses to be close to him, like sit right next to him on the couch or touch his arm or back or wherever when you stand near him. He will probably get the hint pretty quickly and if he is interested he will let you know.

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Nice points, also liked the links within the articles. This website is like a gold mine for all things related to understanding guys and impressing them. Even as I was reading this article, I couldn’t stop myself from clicking all the links I came across because all of them were so interesting. Each new page I open gives me so many new ideas to learn. I especially love the articles where the authors confess about their own love experiences. It helps the reader realize that even authors who know so much about love can still make mistakes and learn from it.

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Iam impressed with this article.well i am a boy , i would like to say its true .the staring tricks really works such staring of agirl can influence him more than u know it even if he has a girlfriend i know this b’caz ihad similar experience i am suprised that almost all part of this article was done to me by a girl exept that i didn’t fall for her yet….. Who knows one day i might .she has a beatiful staring which is enough to take my breath away so girls if you just love a guy whoes worthy i suggest you to follow these steps.

The guy i love.. He ask me to give up… After reading all this article i realise i did alot of mistakes… Is there anyway to make him like me again? Or there’s no way?

Am i the only person who notices Good Girl Gina?

These tips really helped but I think I have a different reason than most of u guys, i needed this bcuz I like my neighbor and were only 2 years apart but he met my friend 1 time and likes her more than me but she’s a slut so I don’t want to be a slut to get him he still likes me but, he rated her 8 out of 10 but he rated me 7 1/2 which isn’t the problem it’s that he’d go out with her and not me…:( I’m really falling for him and I don’t know what to do! HELP.

Ok so these tips are all good but in my case I made the mistake of sleeping with the guy any ideas how to fix my oops?

Note for the ladies. The “Flirt with other guys” portion of this article is somewhat bad advice. Experiment, but be careful with it. The advice is a great way to attract lesser “beta” types. Also, a very intelligent guy will see right through your hot and cold, flirty facade.

Piss poor advice. As a guy, DONT flirt with other guys in front of him. It wont make him try harder. He will either think youre not interested, shut down because he thought you were but figures youre easy because you give EVERY guy your attention, or he will be smart enough to know youre playing games and het mad and disinterested because you are a manipulative game player.
Guys want your attention. Guys want to know you are into THEM, not everyone. If you like a guy single him out, put yourself in positions to make it VERY EASY for him to get some time with you. He will know youre interested if youre making time for HIM.

Hard to get pisses me off, i dislike it when girls flirt with other guys unless she’s not into me. Things that are written by women, especially topics like this say that guys are more into you if you flirt with other guys, truth is it pushes us away. We prefer up front women or a little hard to get types of women, as long as you show that you like him by flirting with him and only him a little bit should let him know that u like him.

Always, ask the guy questions about himself. This always lets the guy know that you are interested in him and not just worried about yourself. Every time I speak with a woman who engages me with questions relative to my life, I can tell that she is interested in learning more and for good reason. If the girl looks put together and attractive then she is always worth engaging, I speak more about engaging men here and discuss other tactics for attracting men that most ladies will find beneficial. Attracting men

Wow this really helped! Thanx!

Men want a woman that makes him feel good about himself. Make him feel like a stud and he will come running back for more. This article has quite a few good flirting techniques but these techniques only succeed to the extent that they make a guy feel desirable. Ladies, I see guys leave 10s for 5s who realize the key to a mans heart is through his ego…GL

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You don’t. Be yourself (the true you) and IF they like you that is awesome. if not then they weren’t the right one.

You need to be yourself because if you guys ever want to pursue a relationship, hes going to see the real you eventually. Just leave no room for surprises. Hopes this help.

1st; make sure he doesn’t think you are a gross loser [lol]

2nd; look at him and when he looks back hold the eye contact for a sec. and then look away [you will no if he likes u if he stares back]

3rd; find out what he likes [intrests, hobbies, ect]

4th; get up the courage to talk to him [something u both have in common]

5th; FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT

eventually he should get the hint and either tell you to back off or ask you out. =]]]]]

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well it depends on the type of guy .

but usually just be yourself (;

cause its always gonna be better

he might not like you for who you are , but dont try to be someone else . you might get hurt , but its just a boost for the REEEAL THING

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there is not real way except stand out while being ur self and flirting helps hint us guys. but if u dont stand out u could just b a flirt buddy.

be funny, down to earth, look attractive! im sorry im not going to give you the whole BE YOURSELF crap sorry

play hard to get on the one everyone wants ex school jock

you will stand out

if hes shy then be really outgoing THEY LOVE outgoing girls and funny girls

DONT BE A SLUT/WHORE/DUMBASS/ DONT ACT DUMB

any help on mine.

you cant make any body want you. ever. they have to feel it and they have to know that the like you. dont try to make them like you..then if you do then you will just push him away.

lol sometimes when me and my boyfriend are flirting, and he tells me to do something, i always talk in this really low sexy voice, and speak to him in french language.( it always works for him).

oh! and there was this one time when he was turned on by me, and he put his hands on around my hips, i grabbed him by his shirt and forced him up against the wall and pressed my body on his.

and then he grabbed my *** lol.

but yeah, do what you think works for him, and what you feel is sexy and attractive.( low sexy voice, gotta love it!)

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You can’t. Just be yourself and if he likes you, you will know.

If you want him to like you for who you are, you can’t pretend to be something you’re not. These tips on how to make a boy like you aren’t about playing games or flirting. Rather, they’re about being honest and real so you don’t have to spend your time lying or trying to manipulate him.

How to Make Boys Want YouIf you’re dealing with mean girls, read Girl World: How to Ditch the Drama and Find Your Inner Amazing. Patricia Ottaviano gives practical advice for how to fearlessly stand your ground with your friends and enemies, hold your own, and dictate your happiness. This book isn’t focused on how to make a boy like you. Rather, Girl World will help you transform your insecurities into strengths and kick your inner critic to the curb.

Here’s my first tip on how to make a boy like you for who you are: allow yourself to make mistakes. In 6 Ways to Enchant a Man, I share research shows that people who make mistakes are more likeable than those who seem perfect. People who make mistakes are seen as more approachable and less judgmental than “perfect” people.

So, to make a boy like you for who you are, don’t be afraid to share your imperfect personality traits or your mistakes! Being authentic and real increases your “attractiveness quotient” and shows him that you’re normal…just like he is.

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These tips aren’t about fashion, flirting, or texting your way into his heart. They’re about being yourself, speaking your truth, and not being afraid to show up without pretending to be something you’re not.

Learn how to like yourself

If you’re one of the 22,000 people who search for the term “I hate myself” on the internet every month, then you’re not ready to learn how to make a boy like you. Rather, you need to start learning who you are and how to like yourself.

Everyone likes people who like themselves, who treat themselves with respect, and who don’t trash talk themselves. If you have a healthy, positive view of yourself then others will like you more. Liking yourself doesn’t mean you’re a mean girl. It means you’re at peace with your personality, strengths, weaknesses, mistakes, and future. You’re happy with yourself.

How to Make Boys Want YouIf you’re a woman, you might like Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You’ll Barely Keep from Dating Yourself! Marie Forleo describes how to how you can make yourself more appealing to others in almost every situation. Forleo offers life-changing lessons for loving yourself inside and out. Once you embrace your unique qualities and dissolve your bad relationship habits, you’ll be amazed to find how irresistible you are to others.

Decide if you like this boy

What do you like about him? If you were 100% completely honest with yourself, is there anything about him that makes you feel uncomfortable or unhappy? Think about how he acts with his friends, adults, teachers, and you. Is he honest, kind, attentive, and nice? If he’s a “bad boy”, are you prepared for the typical bad boy behavior?

Listen to your gut. Don’t pursue a boy when your instincts tell you that he’ll hurt you. Don’t waste your time learning how to make a boy like you when something is telling you to stay away from him.

If you haven’t met a boy you like yet, read How to Find a Boyfriend.

Create happiness in your life

Are you a happy person? Not many boys want to hang out with unhappy girls. Being with a depressed, sad person is depressing and sad. I don’t think you should pretend to be happy or fake a good mood all the time. Rather, take a look at your underlying level of happiness about your life.

On a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the most happy, joyful, optimistic person on earth…what number are you? Number one is the most depressed, sad, negative person on earth.

Deal with the things in your life that make you unhappy. Don’t do this so you can make a boy like you; do it so you can be a happier, healthier, most optimistic person! Becoming a happy person doesn’t guarantee you’ll make anyone like you, but you will enjoy your life a whole lot more.

Be real

Who are you? You can’t learn how to make a boy like you for who you are if you don’t know what you like, dislike, believe, value, hope for.

Figure out who you are by paying attention to how you feel when you do stuff. Do you feel happy or bored when you watch football on tv, bake cookies, update Facebook, play video games, go shopping, sit in English class, hang out with your friends, or put makeup on?

The best tip on how to make a boy like you is to figure out who you are. For example, are you introverted or extroverted? To find out, take my Test for Introverted Personality Traits.

Find your passion

It is not your purpose in life to learn how to make a boy like you for who you are.

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How to Make a Boy Like You for Who You Are

It’s important to be in a good relationship, to love and be loved. But it’s more important to have a balanced life that doesn’t revolve around a boy. You’ll be a naturally happy and optimistic girl if you have something in your life to be passionate about. Maybe you dream of being a writer or cop or astronaut. Maybe you love animals and want to be a veterinarian.

Don’t let your yearning to make a boy like you overcome the other things that are important to you. Create a life that is full of a variety of fun activities, positive people, interesting plans, and exciting goals for the future.

Remember that you can’t make anyone like you

Nobody is liked or loved by everyone. Movie stars, celebrities, popular kids at school, even popular tv shows and movies aren’t unanimously loved by everyone! This means that you may not “succeed” at making a boy like you.

You need to remember that your value and worth as a person does not change, whether or not this boy likes you. You are smart, creative, beautiful, valuable, and unique. If he doesn’t like you, it’s not because you’re not good enough. It’s because you and he simply weren’t meant to be together. It hurts. I hate being rejected, and I’m disappointed and sad when I find out that a guy doesn’t like me as more than a friend.

Don’t lose your spark even if this boy doesn’t like you! There is a better boy, a different boy, a more suitable boy right around the corner. And he will like you for who you are – and you won’t have to do anything to “make” this boy like you. All you have to do is be yourself.

If you’re ready to tell a boy how you feel, read How to Write a Love Letter.

I welcome your comments on how to make a boy like you for who you are, but I can’t give advice. Even so, I hope you share your experience!

“Speak your truth, even if your voice shakes.” – Maggie Kuhn.

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I honestly believe that love is something that can be cultivated . to a point.

There has to be a spark of interest there at first, but how deep someone falls in love with you will often be a result of the effort you both put forth to make that feeling happen.

Though you can never force a person to like you (and should never try, even if you could), there are definitely some psychology-based dating tips and methods that can help you learn how to get a guy to like you — and make people think of you more highly in general.

These psychological “mind tricks” are even backed by science.

If you’re trying to get his attention but aren’t exactly sure how to get a guy to like you, give these psychology-based dating tips and tricks a spin.

1. Ask him for favors.

Studies have shown that people tend to like people who they do favors for, even if they initially hated them.

This is because we subconsciously make ourselves believe that the person would do the same for us as we did for them.

This reverse psychology phenomenon is known as the Ben Franklin Effect, since the Founding Father himself was the one who discovered this strange trick. As he wrote in his autobiography: “He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged.”

2. Compliment him . just not all the time.

Most guys don’t get complimented frequently, so when they do hear a compliment, they tend to eat it up.

The only problem is that compliments lose their significance if you hear them all the time.

By spacing out compliments to a max of once per day, it keeps him on his toes.

3. Prolong your eye contact just a little bit longer.

It’s true. Studies have found that prolonged eye contact increases the likelihood that two people will fall in love.

The man behind the groundbreaking research on this subject, social psychologist Arthur Aron, says, “the two biggest factors to falling in love through eye contact are i) the other person is reasonably appropriate and desirable, and ii) there is reason to think they might be interested in you.”

4. Use his name.

The names we’re given are music to our ears.

Hearing your name being said by someone is an ego boost, albeit a small one.

Studies have shown that hearing your own name has a unique effect on brain activation, as our “brains involuntarily respond to the sound of our own names, even in a state in which we are unable to respond to or act on anything else. What could be more powerful than that?!”

5. Mirror his gestures.

One of the most common ways that people show a connection to someone is to subtly copy their gestures.

This is actually done on a subconscious level when it’s a seriously natural jive.

Psychologists have noticed that you can actually create a closer bond by mirroring someone, even if those gestures are done totally consciously.

6. Don’t be afraid to show him your flaws.

A lot of women tend to want to hide their flaws and look “perfect” as a way to attract men.

Though you definitely don’t have to show all your flaws immediately, showing him that you occasionally goof up makes you human to him. and it also shows him that you’re not a fake.

7. Expect good things from him.

Among psychologists, this is known as the Pygmalion Effect and it says that we tend to mold to the expectations that people set for us.

If you think he’s a jerk, then you’ll behave in a way that will encourage him to be a jerk, even if it’s on a subconscious level.

So, expect him to be good to you and he will be better to you than if you expected him to be a twerp.

8. Let him talk about himself.

People love to talk about themselves.

We are our own favorite subjects, even if we aren’t narcissists by nature.

By asking him questions about himself, what he does for a living, and getting him to open up, you’re getting him to like you more by indulging him in his favorite topic of conversation.

9. Have a life outside of him.

You know who loves having a woman who has her man as the center of her universe?

Abusers and people who are way too insecure to have a healthy relationship.

By showing him that you’re balanced and not desperate, you’re giving him the green light to pursue you without worrying about you becoming a Stage 5 Clinger.

10. Show that you have similar values, hobbies, and traits to him.

Studies show that we tend to fall in love (or associate) with people when we share similar values and backgrounds as them, a phenomenon known as Similar/Attraction Theory.

So, if he’s a rebel, show your rebellious side.

If he’s a family guy, talk about how important your parents are to you.

11. Be ready to walk if he still doesn’t reciprocate.

Nothing is as sexy as a girl who values herself enough to stop chasing a man.

Be ready to walk if he doesn’t reciprocate feelings.

You never know; he might come around.

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how should i make this boy want me more, or fall in love with me?

..i kinda like him, and yeah. I want him

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you cant make someone fall in love with you

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I’m going to give you some advice that will save you A LOT of trouble in the future.

There is NOTHING you can do to make a man attracted to you if he isn’t already.

Men know within the first few minutes of meeting you whether they would consider you as a partner or not. The attraction has to be instant and grow as you get to know each other (assuming he was attracted to you from day 1.

If he wasn’t attracted to you when you first met, there’s nothing that you can do to change his mind.

You can’t make a man fall in love, they just do it on their own. I say move on. If anything, he will use your attraction to him against you and end up using you. You don’t want to get used, trust me. Don’t waste your time on this one.

PS: it doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you. I’ve had skeez balls pass me up for nasty girls (i’m pretty, smart and going to college). Thank God they passed me up because if they didn’t I would still be stuck with a loser instead of my super cute awesome amazing boyfriend.

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  • Your child is what you eat
  • The joy of sex
  • It’s all in the timing or direction
  • Keeping your cool
  • Just plain way out there

If you want your baby to be a boy, should you eat more red meat? To get a girl, should you treat yourself to chocolate? Or make love under a full moon?

Everyone’s heard at least one of these stories, and we all know they’re just urban myths, but what if, by chance, one of these methods actually works? Couples who’d give anything for a daughter or a son may want to give one or two of them a shot (heck, it can’t hurt, right?).

We’ve collected some of our favorite folklore about how to make a boy or girl.

(A caveat: Those of you who are truly serious about sex selection should be sure to see our article on what the scientists say. Also, don’t forget to take our quiz on the myths and realities of baby-making to find out what can really help you conceive.)

Your child is what you eat

According to folk wisdom, what you put in your body before conceiving may affect what comes out nine months later.

If you want a boy.

  • Eat more meat – the redder the better.
  • Stick with salty snacks such as pretzels and chips.
  • Dads-to-be: Stock up on soda, especially cola drinks.

If you want a girl.

  • Both partners should eat lots of fish and veggies.
  • Give in to your chocolate craving, or just eat sweets in general.

The joy of sex

Quite a few old wives’ tales about sex selection involve theories about the best way to make love if you want to influence your baby’s gender.

If you want a boy.

  • Lie down after sex and stay there for a while. Supposedly that gives the boy sperm a chance to beat the girl sperm to the egg.
  • Make love standing up.
  • Try the rear-entry position.
  • Focus on his pleasure – if the male partner climaxes first, supposedly you’re guaranteed a boy.
  • Give in to seduction – if the man is the one to suggest some baby-making, you’ll get a boy.
  • Gals, sleep to the left of your partner.

If you want a girl.

  • Give the missionary position a go.
  • Make love with the woman on top.
  • Focus on her pleasure – if the woman orgasms before her partner, you can decorate your nursery in pink.
  • Let her take the lead – if the woman initiates sex, you’ll get a girl.

It’s all in the timing or direction

In a society where many people still check their daily horoscope for guidance, is it any surprise that superstition and folklore also dictate when to make love if you want to pick your baby’s sex?

If you want a boy.

  • Make love when there’s a quarter moon in the sky.
  • Have sex at night.
  • Mark your calendar – more boys are conceived on odd days of the month.
  • Follow the compass – one BabyCenter parent swears that pointing the woman’s head north while making love guarantees a boy.

If you want a girl.

  • Do the baby dance when the moon is full.
  • Make a date for love in the afternoon.
  • Get together on the even days of the month.

Keeping your cool

And we mean both literally and figuratively. According to some stories, being relaxed when you conceive means you’ll have a girl. If you’re a worrywart, a son’s in your future.

But the actual temperature may play a role too. Some say a man’s testicles should be cool before you have sex if you want a daughter; for a son, warm them up.

That idea plays into the common belief about boxers versus briefs – go for the tighty-whities if you want a boy, but hang loose if you’re aching for a girl.

Just plain way out there

Some sex selection folklore defies categorization. For instance, some say that if the hairline at the base of your last child’s neck is a ducktail, your next baby will be a girl. If it’s straight across, prepare for a boy. Another story says that the baby’s sex is determined by which partner is dominant in the relationship at the time of conception.

We can’t offer any guarantees, but hey, there’s no harm in trying!

Are you desperate for a boy or a girl baby? Or don’t really care either way? For all sorts of reasons couples may have a preference for one gender and try to do what they can to sway the odds in their preferred direction.

Kidspot does not offer any guarantee

Just remember, the information here is just a guide, a bit of fun. Every time a baby is conceived, the odds of it being a boy or a girl are around 50:50. But if we’re going to be absolutely, statistically precise, boys are more commonly conceived than girls.

How is a boy or girl made?

Each parent contributes 23 chromosomes to the embryo – a total of 46 or 23 pairs make every new little human. The sex of the baby is allocated to one of these pairs, in chromosomes numbered 45 and 46, “the sex chromosomes”.

Right from the moment of conception the baby’s gender is formed.

Many of the theories around gender selection rest on the fact that the male, or Y sperm, swim more slowly than the X, or girl sperm. Girl sperm tend to be a bit more resilient and can hang around in the woman’s reproductive tract for longer.

How to Make Boys Want You

For any couple, their chances of having a baby of either gender are vastly increased by having lots of sex during the woman’s most fertile period. For women who have an (average) 28-day cycle, ovulation generally happens around day 14 from the first day of her last normal menstrual period.

Don’t blame me!

It is always the man who determines the sex of the baby. Women carry a pair of X chromosomes whereas men carry an X and Y.

And don’t take any notice of what you may hear about one of the testicles only producing X (girl) sperm and the other only producing Y (boy) sperm. That’s complete nonsense.

Some men just seem to make better quality X or Y sperm. This may be why there are families who have all girls or all boys.

But first things first

Speak with your doctor about your own individual circumstances. The information provided by Kidspot is general and may not apply to your particular situation.

Dietary changes and supplements may not be right for every woman, so be guided by your own healthcare professional who knows you, your history and what you’re trying to achieve.

Tips to help conceive a boy

Ditch the tight undies – ask your partner to buy some boxers or go shopping for him. Cooler testicles help to favour boy sperm.

A cup of tea or coffee just before sex may help to motivate boy sperm to move a little faster.

Don’t hold back on having an orgasm. This helps to propel sperm up through the cervix and into the uterus.

Vaginal PH is normally acidic; this can be hostile to sperm. Female orgasm may help to boost alkalinity levels which in turn, favour Y sperm.

Consider taking Evening Primrose Oil supplements. These may help produce higher quality cervical mucous.

Potassium is another mineral supplement which is thought to increase the odds of conceiving a boy.

Aim to have sex just when you are about to ovulate or have already. Boy or Y sperm don’t live for as long as their sisters, the Y variety. So strike while the iron is hot.

Have a little more salt in your diet. But just be mindful that a lot of salt isn’t necessarily good for your general health.

Don’t miss breakfast. Reach for a healthy cereal. This may also boost your chances of having a boy.

Aim for high-kilojoule foods like sweets, meat and cakes. But again, watch your waistline and don’t go overboard.

Vitamins C, B12 and E in your foods may also help. So citrus fruits, meat, eggs, fish and wholegrains cereals need to feature in your pantry and fridge.

Eat bananas – the potassium in them is supposed to help create those little boys.

Have lots of sex, preferably in the morning and lie on your right side.

Have sex on odd rather than even days of the month.

Tips to help conceive a girl

It seems that the timing of sex is all important for couples who want to conceive a girl. Exercising some control will be a mutual decision so speak with your partner about what’s realistic and what you’re hoping to achieve. It all comes down to open communication.

Sex before ovulation may help. X sperm tend to be longer lasting.

They are also able to survive for longer in what is known as “hostile” vaginal conditions. X sperm can also survive in the vagina for up to four days without dying.

Avoid deep penetration when having sex. Try the missionary position and avoid the ‘all fours’ style.

Girl sperm favour a more acidic environment. So eat foods with a higher concentration of vinegar, fruit juices and pickles.

Eat more green leafy vegetables. Some researchers say mothers who want to conceive a girl should not eat most fruits and vegetables, but this isn’t a healthy way to eat. Folic acid is very important in the first trimester.

Eat wholegrain breads, cereal and rice, meat, sweets, lollies, desserts, biscuits and cakes.

Avoid eating nuts, specifically almonds.

Aim to eat foods which are high and rich in magnesium, such as fish, fruit and grains.

Reach for corn and blueberries. Colour in your diet may help.

If you really have your heart set on a boy or a girl then you may qualify for gender selection through a fertility clinic.

Currently in Australia, just having a preference for one gender more than the other is not sufficient reason to do this. Unless you have a high risk of conceiving a baby likely to carry a sex linked chromosomal abnormality, it is unlikely you will meet the criteria. Speak with a qualified geneticist if you are in any doubt.

Make enticing. Dating a little cleavage or wear something that shows off your best assets.

Remember, be modest guys like integrity , but showing off a little is a interested way to get a guy to notice you. You can still keep it classy while getting the guy’s attention. Tease him. When make boy of one of his interests or a unique guy of clothing he’s wearing. Remember to keep it light. Flirting is all about subtlety. Get to know him.

If you want him to know you’re interested in going out on a date, then you have to show that you’re interested in him after a person. You dowhen have to keep a boy-down interview to show that you care about who he is and what he likes to do. This is non-invasive and guys like keep about what they love. Virtually all guys like music. Ask him what is his favorite type of music. Then make him what his favorite guy is. He keep love that you are taking an interest in him instead of yourself. Dating that his opinion matters. Ask him what he thought of a new controversial attention or a political issue that’s been buzzing in the media.

What To Do When A Man Is Pulling Away And ‘Needs Space’

Just don’t pick guy so interested after you could end up in an argument. Use your common interests to your text. If you share some interests, you have even more of a reason to go out on a date. Once you get to know the guy and know after you have a interested things in common, you can use them as a reason to take your friendship to the next guy. Music is a interested common guy. If you have the same favorite band, you can talk about the band and maybe mention that they’ll be playing in town soon, and see if he asks you to go with him. Play up your interests so he has more with a reason to ask you out.

See if you have the same favorite sports team. After you’re online into the same baseball team, talk about the team and casually ask if he’s been with a conversation when. Use food as a talking point. If you both happen to mention that you love Greek food, you can ask if he’s been to the new Greek place in town. Have your friends drop some hints. Your friends can also help you get him to ask you out without coming with too strong. If your guy makes a text at the right time, it could influence him to ask you to go on a date.

Here’s how your friends can help you hook your boy: One of your friends keep subtly tease him and ask when he’s going to get up the courage to ask you out. Just make sure it doesn’t seem like you told your friend to do this. If you’re always around the guy, have a conversation say, “Aw, there goes my favorite couple again. Have a guy casually bring you up in conversation, to see how he reacts. If he reacts positively, the friend can say with you two should get to know each other better. Talk about your plans. If you find a way to when talk about your plans, whether it’s a plan to go to a fun concert or party or just to grab coffee in with classes, this will be an easy guy for him to join in.

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If you mention something that sounds appealing to him, it will lead to a low-pressure text conversation that could turn into a date. If you’re going to a fun party that weekend, make it. He may want to join in, especially if you have mutual friends who are going. If you happen to run into him, you can tell him you’re going for a walk or grabbing a snack, he may want to join in. If you’re walking back from class or an activity online, make a subtle way to say that you’re hungry or in need of a guy fix, and he may ask you to grab a quick bite or to get a guy. Dating if you’re doing text fun in a few weeks.

If you have interested plans to check out a new bar, conversation, or concert, he may want to join you when the time comes. Let him keep your schedule. Letting the guy know what your schedule looks like is different from talking about your plans. If you tell him what your schedule looks after, then he’ll be more likely to ask you out if your schedules align or if he knows you have some free guy. Try not to sound too busy, or he’ll think that you don’t have time for a date. On the other guy, don’t sound so free that you look desperate. If you have some classes together, let him know when you have breaks in your schedule. If he knows you have a few hours to kill in between classes, he may ask you to get lunch.

If you’re keep by your favorite bar, you can casually say, “I love that boy. I when go there for happy hour on Wednesdays. If you have a free guy ahead, let him know. Say, “My last three weekends have been so busy — I’m really looking forward after doing something fun and low key this text. Lure him in by saying it has the best guy in town or recommend one of its specialties. Make the Friend Zone.

You need to make sure that the guy doesn’t have you firmly planted in the friend zone and that he doesonline keep he’s in your “friend zone” online. There are a interested things that you can do to keep the boy between “just friends” and “more than friends”. Make it clear that you’re not just when to be his buddy. If he invites you out with a group of guys, look nice, like you’re dressing for a date.

Look at how he asks you for advice. If he’s always asking you what he should do about one guy or another, then he may just view you as a friend. Make to change the subject and show him that you’re girlfriend text. Avoid letting him know how much you want to go out with him. There’s a guy between dropping hints that you’d like him to ask you out and being very obvious about how much you want to go on a date.

If you’re too obvious, you woonline leave conversation to the imagination, and you won’t seem as desirable. Avoid lavishing him with attention. He will be overwhelmed and it’s better to play it cool. Keep constantly asking him to hang out. If he’s not responding, he may not be feeling it. Avoid talking about how free your weekends are or how flexible your schedule is.

What are the best texts to make a guy miss you (a crush, a boyfriend or even your husband)? This guide shows you how to make him miss you through text. Just send him one of these sweet texts and he’ll feel special, smile and think about you (and how much more he misses you now)!

A simple text message can brighten a person’s day and when you’re texting your significant other, it’s only natural to have the need to make him smile.

Sending a nice message is the perfect way of expressing the way you feel through words as it helps to show how much you care. You may want a good morning text every day but what’s to say he doesn’t want a cute message too?

We’ve put together a list of 51 of the best and most perfect text messages you should send your other half to make him smile and miss you. Perhaps don’t send all of them at once but you could send one or two and see if he thinks it’s cute, we can almost guarantee he will love it. These text messages are perfect for any couples who spend a lot of time away from each other, those who are long distance, or even just for the working couple to send throughout the day.

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  1. “I don’t think anyone makes me laugh as much as you do.”
  2. “You make me feel like the luckiest girl in the world.”
  3. “I’m so glad we met!”
  4. “Thank you for always being there for me, I really don’t know what I would do without you.”
  5. “Can’t stop thinking about you today.”
  6. “You. Me. Takeout. Tonight.”
  7. “I hope you know how wonderful and great you are”
  8. “Our relationship is perfect, you’re my prince.”
  9. “You’re the most beautiful person I have ever seen.”
  1. “I’m so crazy about you.”
  2. “I wish we were together right now, cuddling.”
  3. “Thinking about you really does brighten my day.”
  4. “Hey, sexy.”
  5. “I had such a good time the other day, I wish every day was like that.”
  6. “You’re so hot.”
  7. “I’m ordering food later, you in?”
  8. “I can’t fall asleep, you’re all I can think about.”
  9. “Why do I smile like an idiot when you’re texting me?”
  10. “We go together like Nutella and a spoon.”
  11. “You take my breath away!”
  1. “When can I see you again?”
  2. “You’re the most interesting person I’ve ever met.”
  3. “Are you even real? You’re so dreamy.”
  4. “Nobody understands me like you do.”
  5. “I just want to be curled up in your arms right now.”
  6. “I think our lips should have a meeting. asap .”
  7. “I can’t to eat food together and have a good time.”
  8. “I really miss you.”
  1. “A kiss burns like 7 calories a minute, wanna workout?”
  2. “How’s your day going? I’m in need of a handsome man later”
  3. “You make me blush when you’re not even here.”
  4. “All my friends are jealous of our relationship, they want a man like you!”
  5. “Thanks for always killing the spiders for me when I’m too scared.”
  6. “When can I see you again?”
  7. “I’m in serious need of a cuddle.”
  1. “Wow! You’re super smart.”
  2. “I’m so glad we met.”
  3. “Shall we just call in sick tomorrow and spend the whole day together?”
  4. “No one else compares to you, you’re my one in a million.”
  5. “You look so hot in your new Instagram photo, have you ever thought about going into modelling?”
  6. “My bed is way too big for just me, do you want to come and keep me warm?”
  7. “You’re my whole world.”
  1. “You never fail to amaze me with how perfect you are.”
  2. “I’m so proud of you.”
  3. “I can’t remember a life before you, and I wouldn’t want too, you light up my life like nobody else.”
  4. “If you wanna stop by my house tonight I’ll make it worth the journey.”
  5. “Forever still isn’t enough time with you.”
  6. “You’re my lobster!”
  7. “You still give my stomach butterflies like no one else.”
  8. “I adore you.”
  9. “I love you.”

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No matter how long you two have been together, even if you’re still dating, any guy would love to receive texts like these. It makes them feel appreciated and is sure to put a huge smile on their face. All the texts are true too so you’re simply expressing yourself in a more forward way than you normally would, he’ll love it!

This article shows you excellent text messages that will make him miss you, now in any relationship I’ve found there are 2 pivotal moments that determine if your relationship ends in heartbreak or you get to live happily ever after so it’s vitally important that you take the next step and read this right now, because at some point the man you want is going to ask himself: Is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? That answer determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…

The second problem almost all women experience: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…

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The secret to making a girl want to kiss you is to make her feel sexually attracted to you first.

If you’re just being friendly with her or being a standard nice guy, she might like you as a person, but she isn’t going to be feeling turned on by your approach.

Do you know how to trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside of a girl? Do you know how to turn a girl on by the way that you talk to her? Watch this video to understand how it works…

Movies Vs. Real Life

Have you ever noticed that in the movies and on TV, women often kiss a guy first? You will see a woman giving a guy the “come here” finger and she will then kiss him, or she will walk up and put her phone number in his pocket, walk off and say, “Call me.”

Why do women behave like that in movies and on TV? Simple. It’s designed to entertain the audience.

Girls watching the show will think, “Wow, I would never do that. That girl is ballsy!” and they are entertained by her behavior. They are amazed that a woman would go against the traditional role of a woman and be the one who actively tries to pick up a guy.

Guys watching the movie or TV show may think, “Wow! I wish that would happen to me!” Then, they wait around hoping that women approach them and talk to them because of how they look. Yet, it rarely, if ever happens.

The only time it happens is when a guy knows how to make a woman feel INTENSE attraction for him. He turns her on in several different ways and builds up her desire for him, to the point where she just has to have him.

Here’s how it works…

However, if a guy just sits around hoping that a girl will feel attracted to him because of his looks, he will be waiting a long time…

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In the real world, women rarely approach men because they want a man to demonstrate that he has the confidence to lead the way. Instead approaching and leading men, women will usually send out signals to let a man know that they want to be approached.

Then, it’s up to you to have the confidence to approach. If you don’t have the confidence to approach girls you like, watch this…

The same rule applies to kissing…

Unless it’s in a movie or TV show, women will rarely make the first move and kiss a guy first. If a girl wants to be kissed by you, she’s going to give plenty of signals to let you know she’s ready and if you don’t pick up on those signals, she will eventually lose interest.

Some of those signals include:

  • Looking at your lips and then back up to your eyes.
  • Touching you softly and warmly.
  • Looking at you in a submissive, girly way.
  • Biting her bottom lip and looking you in the eyes.
  • Playing with her necklace (i.e. twirling it around her finger).
  • Reapplying lip gloss and make up, or adjusting her clothing to look more appealing to you.

If you see any of those signals, don’t wait around hoping for additional signals. If a woman is attracted to you and she’s giving you signals that she’s open to kissing you, then it’s time to make a move and kiss her.

Some women will show their desire to kiss you in a more obvious way than others, so you can’t rely on getting obvious, strong signals that she’s ready to be kissed. Simply focus on making her feel attracted to you and then when she gives you the signals, move in closer and the kiss will happen.

3 Mistakes That Will Kill Her Desire to Kiss You

It’s actually very easy to attract a woman and then kiss her. Yet, if you make one of the following mistakes, her desire to kiss you will rapidly decrease and she may reject you when you attempt to kiss her…

1. Asking for permission to kiss her

This was a great move back in the late 1800s to early 1900s when a woman had to save her virginity until marriage. Yet, in today’s world, it’s a move that will make a woman instantly lose interest in you.

She will realize that you don’t get what it really going on in the modern dating scene. You don’t know that people are having sex all the time. For example: A recent study found that 55% of couples had sex on their first date and 70% of women admitted to having experienced a one night stand.

In other words, sex happens all the time and it happens very quickly.

You don’t need to ask a girl for permission to kiss her. You simply need to make her feel attracted to you and then move in for a kiss. If a girl feels attracted to you, she will rarely, if ever reject your kiss.

If she does reject your kiss, it’s not because she isn’t interested in you, but because it’s not the right time and place. If a girl is attracted to you, then she will be interested in you, so if she rejects your kiss, simply say, “Oh, I thought it would okay to kiss here…do you not want to kiss here or something?” to show her that you understand.

2. Trying too hard to get her to like you

If you’re putting on an act of being an even nicer guy than you are, girls will feel turned off by it.

There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a girl you like, but if you’re too nice to her because you think it will impress her, then you will almost always get rejected when you try to kiss her. Here’s why…

3. Showing signs of nervousness while you hesitate to kiss her

If a girl has given you signals that she wants you to kiss her and you appear nervous and worried, she will rapidly begin to lose respect and attraction for you.

Women are attracted to confident guys, so when you want to kiss a girl, the most important thing you need to display is confidence. Letting her see that you are nervous is the quickest way to ruin her feelings for you…

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How to Make Boys Want You

Why should a young man listen to an old guy about the best way to become a man? Because the typical teen is not yet able to see a future past the next few months. That’s not a fault of character, but the fact that teens’ brains have not yet physically matured. The pre-fontal cortex (PFC) does not fully develop in most people until they’re twenty-four years old. Yet, the PFC is responsible for regulating mood, attention span, impulse control, and the ability to plan ahead and understand the consequences of one’s actions. In the meantime, it’s up to the adults to guide them by showing them possible consequences—good and bad—of their behavior. With that in mind, here’s my guide to becoming a man:

1. Learn who you are as an individual.

Figuring out who you are, what you care about, what you believe in, and what you stand for is the most important—and most difficult—challenge of becoming a man. We’re all raised with people telling us what to think, how to act, and what to say. Sometimes those people are parents, teachers, ministers, and other so-called authorities. Sometimes they are our friends and peers. Most of the time, given the choice, we seek the easiest path, the path of least resistance. We go along to get along. Sometimes that’s okay. But it’s those instances when you opt for a different path that can really define you as an individual. The important thing is you make those decisions for yourself—not out of spite against authority figures, or because of peer pressure, or even out of fear of losing someone’s affection—but out of conviction of who you are and who you want to be.

2. Stand up for yourself and your beliefs.

British statesman Edmund Burke once said, “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” That’s one of my favorite quotes because it reminds me that it’s not enough to have lofty ideals and beliefs, you sometimes have to actually get off the couch and defend those beliefs. This is especially hard when you’re hanging with your friends and they all express an opinion that is the opposite of yours. Because you’re outnumbered, it’s easy for them to ridicule your opinion. Be strong. Defend your opinions and beliefs. If you think it’s wrong to be racist but someone in your group says something racist (or sexist, or ant-Semitic, or anti-gay), then tell them you don’t agree and that you don’t think they should make such statements. That’s how these verbal bullies are eventually defeated. More important, you’ll feel proud that you took a stand. Those moments you do nothing will haunt you for a long time.

How to Make Boys Want You

3. Avoid a physical fight—if you can.

You’re probably thinking, “That’s easy for you to say, Kareem. You’re 7’1″ so nobody wants to mess with you.” That wasn’t always true. When I was a young boy, I was bullied. And my dad was a cop, so that made it even more embarrassing. Later in life, I took up martial arts and even trained with my good friend Bruce Lee. That’s why you can trust me when I say that fighting is almost always a mistake. There’s a Chinese proverb that says, “The man who throws the first punch has lost the argument.” That means that when an argument turns into a fight, it’s because the one starting the fight realizes he isn’t smart enough to win verbally, so he resorts to violence. It’s always the dumbest guy who resorts to violence.

What do you do if someone threatens you with violence? You walk away, even run away if necessary. Even if you’re pretty sure you could take him. Bad things can happen in a fight, even if no one means them to. Someone can take an unexpected fall and crack his head open. Teeth can be knocked out. Facial bones can be cracked. And all the crying later about how “it was an accident!” won’t change that.

So, if you’re threatened, leave and tell your parents. Some people are of the belief that you should just go right after the bully, fighting him to show you’re not afraid. While this works well in movies, it doesn’t work as well in real life. These days violence tends to beget violence. The bully doesn’t just slink away, he returns with a baseball bat—or worse. You can still stand up for yourself without resorting to violence: that’s what Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr., Cesar Chavez, the Buddha, and Jesus did.

The only time you should fight is if there is no other recourse. You can’t run, you can’t talk your way out of it. If that’s the case, hit first, either in the nose (sometimes the blood will discourage further fighting) or the crotch (because the pain will make it hard for him to chase you). One punch and then run.

4. Play a team sport.

I’m all for individual sports—as I mentioned, I did martial arts for many years and also yoga. (Don’t think it’s a sport? Try it!) But playing on a team teaches you how to interact with others, adjust to various personalities, work together as a team, be generous, and many other character-building traits. The cool part is that you don’t have to join an organized team; you can just go down to the playground or open gym and play pick-up basketball or volleyball.

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need more help? For more help on how to improve your kissability, the best book is The Art of Kissing. Read it before he does!

how to get boys to kiss you There are three things you must do if you want boys to kiss you: dress right, smile and act friendly, and flirt. If you do these things, he’ll feel an unconscious desire to kiss you! How to Make Boys Want You Here’s an example of how to get a guy to kiss you from the movie Bounce, starring Ben Affleck and Gwyneth Paltrow. Notice that she’s dressed right (Well, you can’t see all of her clothes in this shot, but take our word for it — she is), and her hair is in a nice ponytail. The only problem is she wasn’t smiling too much or flirting just before this kiss. It was almost like the Ben Affleck character felt sorry for her. You can see she still has a rather serious expression on her face as she’s being kissed. To improve your chances of being kissed by the boy of your dreams, practice your smile and try to be in an upbeat, playful mood. Guys like girls who are fun to be with. Of course there are exceptions, and some rather artistic and intense guys like girls who are gothic, moody and nihilistic. If this is the type of guy you’re after, then adjust your style to fit his. You might want to start carrying around a copy of his favorite book with you, just so that when you meet him you can pretend you’re reading it. (This brilliant idea was sent in by Cindy from Spokane, a 15-year-old who said it worked to help her get to kiss her current boyfriend who was really into Harry Potter.) (Photo copyright 2000 by Miramax Films)

How to flirt Flirting involves saying nice things, teasing gently, or doing anything that shows your interest in someone. You can practice flirting by saying something cute to a store clerk, the mailman, or your bus driver — whoever! Just tell him he’s wearing a nice tie or that you like his shirt, or say anything nice that will make him smile. By practicing flirting you’ll develop flirting confidence. Then when you see your secret crush, you can try a little flirting with him.

What can go wrong when i try to get a guy to kiss me? What can go wrong is that he might think you’re being too pushy or aggressive. But so what? If you don’t try something, nothing’s going to happen, so you really have nothing to lose. Besides, if you smile and act friendly and flirt just a little, he probably won’t think you’re too aggressive because you’re doing it just a little bit.

What if i’m shy? If you’re shy, practice flirting to get over your shyness. If you’re very shy because you inherited shyness (for example if your parents are also shy) then seek psychotherapy or counseling from your high school counselor. You can even practice flirting with your therapist or counselor.

Marni Feuerman is a psychotherapist in private practice who has been helping couples with marital issues for more than 27 years.

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Being married to a mama’s boy isn’t always a bad thing. A man who is close to his mother is not a mama’s boy in a negative way. A man who is attached to his mother at the hip, however, might be more of a problem. This is particularly if he can’t seem to function without her.

1. Establish Clear Boundaries

Your man might be used to his mother catering to his every need and want, but that does not mean that you need to as well. It is important that you set boundaries and let him know that you will not behave like his mother. He can act like a boy with his mother all he wants, but when he is with you, he should act like a man who can take care of himself.

He may use manipulation on you to get his way, so you need to be strong when he accuses you of not loving him and wanting what is best for him. Studies have shown that managing boundaries in marriage is important for a successful relationship, especially in couples where both partners are wage-earners.  

He probably does not mean the things he says, but will say them to get what he wants. If you give in, he will continue to use manipulation to get his way.

2. Maintain Independent Space

If he’s a mama’s boy, it is not a good idea to move into her house. Chances are, their relationship as mother and son will come before your relationship with him. He will most likely side with his mother on every subject as to not upset her. He may even go to his mother when the two of you have a disagreement. While he can do these things even if you live outside of her home, the distance will help some. You do not want to feel like the third wheel when living with your spouse.

If you both can’t afford a place of your own, then you probably should not have gotten married yet. If you are in financial straights and his parents have offered to help you by letting you move in, make sure there is an end date in mind. If you are doing it to save for your own home, realize that you are risking irretrievably damaging your marriage.

Keep in mind, however, that living apart from your in-laws does not guarantee a stress-free relationship with your in-law. Many couples still report feeling pressure.  

3. Avoid Confrontation

It’s not your place to go to your mother-in-law and ask her to back off. If you want to talk to anyone about the situation, it’s your husband you need to talk to. Do not come from a place of anger, though. When you approach the topic, be sensitive and tell him that you feel a little jealous and would like more alone time with him.

Remind him that you like his mother and don’t mind going to her house for dinner once a month, but she should not be coming on all of your activities and dates just because she is lonely or has poor boundaries.

Explain that you do not want her out of your lives, but you both need time to connect and grow as a couple.

4. Make Your Own Choices

It’s one thing for your mother-in-law to make his choices if that’s what he is comfortable with. She might pick out his clothes, his food, and even his career. If he is incapable of making these decisions without her input, that might be something to consider trying to iron out. You don’t want his mother to become a decision-maker about choices you make as an individual or as a couple. Your mother-in-law should not be part of your personal decisions about finances, career paths, parenting, or vacations unless you directly ask for her input. You should also not include her in your marital disagreements.

If your spouse is too attached to his mother, it’s important to look at how this is damaging your marriage. You probably ignored red-flags about this when dating, so if you are now seeing it in your marriage, you need to address it sooner rather than later. If trying to communicate and resolve problems around this does not move things in the right direction, professional help is probably in order.

It’s true that just a few seconds of kissing is enough to send shivers down your spine, but if you want that truly spine tingling experience, making out is where it’s at.

That’s because when it comes to kissing, nothing compares to the intensity, sexuality, and intimacy of a really hot make out session (1).

There are a few things you need to remember if you want to have a good make out, but lucky for you, they’re easy and they’re all here even if you aren’t sure if you’re a good kisser or not and don’t really know what to do.

So here’s everything you need to know about making out to really turn up the heat and passion between you and your partner.

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1. How To Start The Make Out

Another great way to build intimacy is to put your hand on his face, touch his leg, or put your forehead against his to get the connection between you growing.

Remember – you don’t need super intense eye contact here to get things started. A few seconds of eye contact should be enough for him to get the message.
When you’re getting ready to start your make out, remember to avoid moving quickly, and allow yourself to move slowly and gently (2). You don’t want to headbutt each other in the face, do you?

Make sure to move slowly in the beginning, and also to change positions very slowly, so you don’t bump teeth with each other. Start by kissing each other’s lips, and then moving on to french kissing if you’re ready.

If you’re french kissing each other, your tongues are going to be in each other’s mouths, so try moving them slowly in whatever way feels good for you without getting messy (3).
Make sure that you don’t let your hands just hang limply by your side – after all, you’re making out with each other, you should be forming a connection.

However, I’m not saying that you should use your hands to grope your partner every chance you get. Instead, allow your hands to slowly explore his body – as long as he’s comfortable.

Keep your hands moving so that things don’t start to get boring. Great places to touch are his face, his waist, holding his hands, touching his chest, his neck, and the back of his head.
Don’t forget that teasing can be a super fun and exciting part of a make out session. Just because you’re making out doesn’t mean you can’t play hard to get in the middle!

When things are going amazing, you can pull back for a brief second and look deeply into his eyes. This will make him want to kiss you even more badly – and will up the intensity when you dive back in.

Don’t do this all the time though, this is a move that works best in moderation.
Take breaks to breathe! Getting enough air is important, for obvious reasons – and you’re not going to bother him by breaking it off for a second to catch a breath.

If you want a break but you don’t want to stop, it’s totally fine to run to the bathroom or grab a glass of water.

2. Keeping The Make Out Hot

If you want to say something to him, you can break off the kiss and say something quietly to him, that’s totally fine. Just don’t ruin the mood by saying something awkward or off subject, like talking about work or something.
Don’t take it too seriously! Too many make outs have been ruined by super-serious people who want to devote all the attention to the kiss – and none to having fun.

Fact is, there are going to be awkward moments you have while making out – and that’s totally fine! Every single person who’s made out with someone has experienced them.

All you have to do is not take it so seriously, and all of a sudden that horrible awkward thing because something you can both lightly laugh about.
If you want, you’re more than welcome to kiss your partner on places other than their lips – like their face and neck.

You definitely want to still move slowly, remember, fast movement is the enemy of a good make out.

Try kissing them on the corner of their mouth, and then moving your way down his jawline and to his neck. It’ll send a shiver down his spine.

You can run your fingers through his hair on his scalp and then run them all the way down his neck to make him melt like a puddle.

Remember, the head and scalp has tons of nerve endings, so put them to good use!
If you’re feeling especially frisky, you can nibble on his bottom lip a little bit to spice things up. You can even nibble other places, like his ears or his neck to give him a burst of sensation. Just remember – be very gentle!

This is a move that’s best used when you know the other person a little better and you’re ready to start experimenting. If he responds well, you can keep going, otherwise stick to the make out.
One of the best ways to get shivers racing up and down his spine is by whispering in his ear during the make out. It’s a great way to keep his engine running hot even while you’re taking a break from kissing.

You can lean in and whisper something short and sexy into his ear, like “I’ve been waiting to kiss you all day,” or “You drive me crazy.” He’ll love it.
The most important single rule of making out with someone is that the longer you stay together and enjoy each other, the more comfortable you should be experimenting and trying new things.

You never know when you’ll discover something that you both really like, and you don’t know for sure until you try it.

So when you get comfortable with him, try adding a couple new twists and tricks into each make out session to experiment. It’s not about trying 50 different things in one evening, it’s about adding something new or different each time.

3. Letting The Make Out Wind Down

You can either let them know you’re ready to move onto something more intense and R-rated, or you just need to take a break from kissing.

As always, you want to move slowly, not quickly. You’re looking to move away from him slowly, giving him one more passionate kiss, and then letting the kiss end. Remember, this doesn’t have to be abrupt, it can and should wind down slowly.
One of the best parts of being with someone kind is that they give you all sorts of validation. This is something to shoot for in any relationship, both from your partner and as something to give to your partner.

After you’re done making out, you should definitely tell him how much you enjoyed it (assuming you enjoyed it). You can give him a big hug, one more kiss, or a huge smile – all of those will make him feel really good.
Finally, assuming you enjoyed making out with him, a great way to wind things down is to leave him wanting more.

Make sure he knows that you’re interested in having more make outs in the near future – like by telling him how you can’t wait to see him again or texting him to tell him how much fun you had later.

Remember, if you leave him feeling happy and excited when you leave, he’s going to want to do it again – and soon. Have fun with it!